Family Focus POLAND REV SITED Tirane Warp T, wricar4t P°41-- Helen Garfinker—s-- Greenspun mai- Regina Garfinkel Muskovitz in front of the *MIN that was formerly their maternal uncle's hat Ifejiln:Lodz. For Detroiter, emotions swirl amid return to Holocaust grounds. Suzy Hagstrom fined visiting Poland as part of a generic group tour — not with her family. "I didn't realize I would be lucky enough to go with or Jewish Holocaust survivors, my grandma and (Great-) Aunt Helen" To returning to where they were born hear them talk about the places they were and raised involves confronting the visiting was exceptionally poignant, Feinberg death they so narrowly escaped. Throughout said."Being here together, experiencing it as a Europe, Poland especially, concentration family makes my grandma talk more openly. camps, cemeteries, ruined synagogues, mass I am hoping that helps her move forward. graves, execution sites and World War II Before ... she just didn't want us to feel any memorials punctuate the lush landscape. hurt. She wanted us to be happ?' Consequently, the obstacles are over- Long before their recent trip, Muskovitz's whelmingly more emotional than physical for children and grandchildren had reconstruct- those survivors now in their 70s and 80s and ed her story via the uncle and aunts willing to still healthy enough to travel. talk and via supplemental research. "I never wanted to go back; said "We knew in bits and pieces': Mara Van Regina Garfinkel Muskovitz, 79, of West de Grift, 38, of Atlanta said, echoing Feinberg Bloomfield. For Muskovitz "back" means and her other cousins. Van de Grift, a great- her hometown of Chmielnik, Poland; Kielce, niece of Muskovitz, joined the entourage Poland, where she was exploited as slave to gain insight about her late grandmother. labor; and Dachau, Germany, where she was Bela, the eldest Garfinkel sister, was a sur- liberated after a grueling death march. rogate mother to Muskovitz, the youngest, Referring to her World War II experi- while the two were imprisoned in Kielce. Like ence, Muskovitz said, "I just couldn't Muskovitz, Bela was mostly silent about the speak about it. I had to put it in the back traumas she had endured. of my mind, not in the front of my mind. "My Grandmother Bela talked in gen- Otherwise, I couldn't raise my family." eralities about her past, about how she Although virtually no one was enthusi- liked to read. She definitely felt she would astic — two of her three children opposed have had more of a career if the war had the trip and only one of her grandchildren not happened;' Van de Grift said. "It was had ever contemplated exploring Poland important for me to see the apartment [in — Regina made plans. "Basically, I wanted Lodz, Poland] my grandmother lived in, to leave them with a legacy. I wanted to where she was so happy before the war. I leave them something!' figured now is the opportunity to go while my [great-] aunts are still alive!' The Backdrop Accompanied by 10 relatives and two Memories, Memories friends, Muskovitz recently spent 10 In Chmielnik's synagogue, now a shell of a days in Poland and Germany to show, building, Muskovitz spoke of scampering more than tell, her epic life story. In the upstairs to the balcony to see her mother, entourage was sister Helen Garfinkel then running outside to play and going back Greenspun, 82, of Orlando, Fla., who had and forth during services. In the townsquare, previously blazed the trail. Not only had or rynek, she spoke of watching the Germans Greenspun returned to Chmielnik twice take Helen, Sonia and Nathan to a slave labor before, but also to Treblinka, where their camp. When she tried to approach her sib- parents and younger siblings were gassed lings, a German flogged her with a whip. with nearly all of Chmielnik's 10,000 Jews. In Kielce, where as a mere 12-year- Remarkably, Greenspun and Muskovitz old she was ordered to work on Hasag's survived the worst of Nazi Germany with ammunition assembly lines, Muskovitz three other siblings: the late Nathan Garfinkel, remembered gazing out the factory win- the late Bela Garfinkel Soloway Hurtig dow. Seeing a dog lying in the dirt, she had and Sonia Garfinkel Nothman, 86, of West wished to be that dog. Bloomfield. With the exception of Greenspun, Sixty-seven years later, Muskovitz was the siblings rebuilt their lives in Detroit. simultaneously disappointed and relieved to Muskovitz' granddaughter, Tovah Feinberg, not recognize Chmielnik with its mix of old 30, a design student in New York, had imag- and new buildings. "I wanted to see a trace of Special to the Jewish News F 66 Editor's note: About a year ago, the IN published a feature about Arlene Garfinkel Speiser's return to Chmielnik, Poland, the hometown of her late father and four aunts. Remarkably, all five Garfinkel siblings survived Nazi Germany's death camps. Four of the siblings rebuilt their lives in Detroit. This is a feature about Regina Garfinkel Muskovitz's return to Poland. This is a far different story focusing on Regina's feelings about the journey. The more intriguing part of the family's journey was to Radomsko, Poland, hometown of Regina's late husband, Saul Muskovitz, also a Holocaust survivor, who rebuilt his life in Detroit. something I could remember, but nothing': she said. "It would have been much harder if I saw things that I remembered. Then it would be like it never left me. I couldn't recognize anything so it's the past, and that's it. I wanted some closure, which I think I got." The journey back to the innocence and horror of Muskovitz' childhood also served as a pilgrimage to honor the many relatives — including the in-laws she never met — who perished during the Holocaust. In Radomsko, the hometown of her late husband, Muskovitz couldn't tell or even show. She could only reintroduce her children and grandchildren to a longstanding mystery. Saul Muskovitz, a longtime Detroit resi- dent, never spoke of his childhood or war experience other than to say he had served in the Russian army to fight fascism. He confided only to Regina the tragic fate of his siblings and parents: so-called friends who had sheltered the entire family during the war betrayed them at the end by bru- tally murdering them. "My father's story is so painful, it never really came out;' said Sandra Muskovitz Danto, 58, of Bloomfield Hills, and president of Jewish Family Service of Metropolitan Detroit. "I feel this is an accomplishment to make this journey': Danto said, acknowledging that she struggled to overcome angern actively did not want to come here." Yielding to the responsibilities of sup- porting her mother emotionally and show- ing her children the family's past, Danto found herself full of anticipation. "On my father's side, there's more excitement because we know so little about him." Stark Sights Deby Muskovitz Lebow, 52, an interior archi- tect in West Bloomfield, identified her father's siblings in a pre-war family photograph for State Civil Office workers in Radomsko. By guessing the ages of SauFs sister and younger brother, the workers found a few more birth certificates in addition to that of Saul. "Now that I'm here and seeing everything": said Lebow, who always wanted to return to her roots, "ifs exactly how I envisioned it. Everything is so gray and very dismal." Regina and her family walked up Przedborska Street to see No. 17 and No. 19, one of which may have been Saul's child- hood home. Muskovitz spoke in Polish with an older resident, who claimed she was too young during World War II to have remem- bered any of the neighbors. Keenly aware that her husband would have disapproved of her return to Poland, Muskovitz undertook the trip as much for herself as for her grandchildrenn wanted to show them I am not afraid for myself and, in turn, I don't want them to be afraid." An office building stands at the site of Radomsko's synagogue, which was destroyed during the war. On some exte- rior doorframes in Radomsko's former Jewish ghetto, Regina and her family could see outlines of mezuzahs. On the outskirts of town, Radomsko's Jewish cemetery remains intact although neglected and overgrown with weeds. Time Warp on page 67 October 15 • 2009