Family Focus Preschool Options Finding the right one for you and your child. Ronelle Grier Special to the Jewish News I f you're thinking about sending your child to preschool for the first time, you may find your- self overwhelmed by the vast array of options available. Choices and decisions abound: Jewish or secular? Public or private? Synagogue-based or independent? Making The Choice Start your research early so you have enough time to explore a variety of possibilities before school starts at summer's end. Decide whether your child would do best in a busy, active place or a smaller environment with fewer kids and a larger teacher-stu- dent ratio. Take the school's educa- tional philosophy into account. Some parents prefer a more play-based program, while others want their children to get an early start on academic pursuits. Focus on those schools that meet your practical considerations, such as proximity to your home or workplace, hours of operation, fees and whether or not the children must be toilet trained. Once you've narrowed your choices, make arrangements to visit each school. You may want to make your initial trip alone and then bring your child along for a follow-up visit to those schools you're considering seriously. West Bloomfield psychologist Dr. Ira Glovinsky urges parents who are visiting a preschool to be on the lookout for happy children. "Teachers and other staff members should be interacting with the kids',' he said. "There should be a feeling of emo- tional warmth, teachers who literally get down on the kids' level and can communi- cate clearly without having to use a lot of words. The environment should be struc- tured without being too rigid." He encourages parents to ask questions: • What kind of experience do the teach- ers and staff members have? What are the criteria for hiring teachers and other caregivers? • How long has the director been there, and what did he/she do before? • What experience does the staff have with atypical behavior, such as ADHD or other learning or emotional challenges? • How often does communication between school and home occur? What is the procedure if a problem should arise? •What kind of parental involvement is expected? Are parents allowed to visit the classroom? Is family programming part of the curriculum? • Choose a hypothetical situation and ask how it would be handled. For example, what would happen if Sarah doesn't sit quietly during story time? What if Michael wets his pants or refuses to eat his lunch? "When choosing a school for a young child, look for an environment that engag- es children in learning in active, exciting ways and helps them feel enthusiastic and positive about mastering new skills and ideas," said Diane Levin, Ph.D., author of the book Remote Control Childhood. Upper left: Making music at the Jewish Community "Children should be able to separate com- fortably from their par- Upper right: Sophia Bernzeig, 3, of Huntington ents over an extended Woods, learns how to buy and sell her produce period of time without at Gan Shalom Parenting Center/Preschool at anxiety or fatigue," Congregation Beth Shalom in Oak Park. Glovinsky said. "They should have an interest in peer interactions and show some ability to regulate their behavior, to "Schools follow directions and comply with a rou- should treat chil- tine. A child should also be able to show a dren as whole people." good range of emotions and express his or "The goal of a good preschool should her feelings with words." be to get the child ready for kindergarten," Jacobs believes that children should said Dr. Paul Jacobs, a psychologist with exhibit readiness for preschool on three a private practice in Bingham Farms. levels: social, emotional and physical. "Parents should look carefully at the cur- riculum and the structure of the program. Adapting Before Readiness Make sure that the teachers are able to deal with your child's strengths and weak- If both parents work outside the home, preschool may be a necessity rather than nesses." an option. Glovinsky suggests some ways to make the transition easier for the child Preschool Readiness who may not be optimally ready. Children ready to attend preschool are "Try to find an environment where more likely to be successful than those who are not, but how do you know if your child is ready? Preschool Options on page A72 Center's Pitt Childhood Development Center May 21 . 2009 A71