invite you to join them at their

SECULAR HIGH HOLIDAY ASSEMBLIES

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many hours of agony and grief could be
spared?
Dr. Tainsky's research has immense
potential to accurately measure markers
specific to ovarian cancer. He said at the
walk that the tests he and his team of
researchers have developed are already
about 75 percent accurate. But they are
pushing to make the test so accurate
that it will be ready for FDA testing and
approval within a year or two.
He is thankful for the Warrens' help as
well as the Gail Purtan Ovarian Cancer
Fund, but the researchers need more
money to continue. The U.S. government
is certainly not going to have any money
for this type of cancer research. It is too
preoccupied with its own financial debt
obligations.
The Janis Warren 2008 walk raised
more than $50,000 before the walk
began. But it is so easy to forget a good
cause after the big event. And that we

can't do.
The goal of this walk was and con-
tinues to be deadly serious. We must
turn silence into hope, fear into action,
uncertainty into going to your doctor
and asking questions. When you feel
the symptoms of discomfort, swelling,
nausea, unusual weight gain or loss and
fatigue, don't wait. Get to a doctor and
ask him about ovarian cancer.
Make the loss of Janis Warren a gain
for other women around the world.
Go to wwwjaniswalk.org or to www
karmanos.org and donate what you
can. Hopefully, by the time of the Janis
Warren Walk next year, the early detec-
tion blood test will be radically improved
and the money raised will be substantial.
Let's take the grief-stained tears of the
Warren family and do everything we can
to stop the path of the silent killer. ❑

to be held at

ORCHARD LAKE MIDDLE SCHOOL

6000 Orchard Lake Road, West Bloomfield

KOL NIDRE:
WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 8, 2008 (8 PM-9:30 PM)

Featuring an Assembly of Readings plus music by:
Bloch, Bruch, Chayes and others with Edward Benyas (oboe)
Marcy Chantreau (cello) and Kara Benyas (piano)

YOM KIPPUR:
THURSDAY, OCTOBER 9, 2008 (10 AM-12 NOON)

As Always No Ticket Required
Membership inquiries welcome. Call Institute Office (248) 423-4406

1415700

Arnie Goldman is a Farmington Hills resident.

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clarifying what's important in all parts
of your life.
•Be whole, by acting with integrity
and respecting all aspects of life.
•Be innovative, by acting with creativ-
ity and experimenting with what you do
and how you do it.
Anyone can bring these principles
to their lives and perform better in all
aspects. You just have to make an effort
to reflect and grow, bolstered by those
you enlist to push and encourage you.
This is just what our Jewish tradition
challenges and inspires us to do, espe-
cially during the High Holidays.

What's Real

In the Total Leadership process, you
begin by writing and talking about your
core values and your vision of the kind
of leader you want to become — how
you want to affect the world around you
and why. That's what I mean by being
real, and it's akin to what we as Jews
do in prayer — we contemplate what's
important and how to bring our lives in
closer alignment with our values.
Next you explore how the different
parts of your life fit together as one
— whether your world has integrity
— by thinking through the performance
expectations of the most important
people in each of the four different parts
of your life: work, home, community and
self.
Then you talk to these people, whom
I call your "key stakeholders:' for they
are essential to your future, as you see it,
to verify and perhaps revise your grasp
of these expectations. For many, this

activity is similar to what we do on Yom
Kippur in realizing and talking about
what we need to do to strengthen our
most precious relationships.
Finally, the fun, inspiring part is being
innovative. This involves experimenting
with new ways to get things done with
the intent of improving performance
demonstrably in all four life domains
— pursuing, in other words, what I call
"four-way wins
We need to focus on what matters
most and to consciously take small,
realistic steps toward acting on it. You'll
spend your precious time more intel-
ligently — better aligned with your val-
ues, using more of your natural talents
to pursue passionately the goals to which
you're genuinely committed. As the great
Jewish theologian Abraham Joshua
Heschel, once said, "Life without com-
mitment is not worth
In these Days of Awe, as we reflect on
the work of our lives, ask whether and
how your "living" makes sense in the
bigger picture of your life, your world. If
it doesn't, consider taking one small step
toward making it so. Experiment with a
change that aims to make things better
for you — your mind, your body and
your spirit — and for the people around
you at work, at home and in your com-
munity. 111

Stewart D. Friedman is on the faculty of
the Wharton School of the University of

Pennsylvania and is the author of "Total

Leadership: Be a Better Leader, Have
a Richer Life," published by Harvard

Business Press (www.totalleadership.org ).

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