HEALTH & FITNESS wellness A Duty from page A29 and anxiety" Psychiatric help is still a taboo among many older adults, he says. Life in assisted living, a nursing home or hospital is closely controlled, Ruza says. "People tell you what to do!' For seniors in general, and for survivors in particular, he says, "a lot of issues come up with their loss of independence. They can rebel." The survivor mentality is "you always have got to have something stored away. Survivors are very regi- mented!' Steven M. Lash, DDS, MS Rebecca L. Rubin, DMD, MS xs...m! , , , r, American Ass( ∎ciati‘ rll 1t Orthodontists 14042.. L:NGERIE Pir Hours: Mondav-Saturday 9:30-6 Closed Sunday 265 S. Old Woodward Birmingham 248-642-2555 The Family Section Inside The iN Every 3rd Week Of The Month For advertising information call: A30 July 31 • 2008 JN 248.354.6060 In Response As a physician and as a psychiatrist, Ruza says, "It's an obligation, a neces- sity, a duty to help them. You have to provide psychiatric services for Holocaust survivors, whether they can pay for it or not!' His Botsford colleagues say that Ruza is as caring of the families who must watch their loved ones decline as he is of the patients. "T.J. works extremely well with patients and their families," says Dr. Kenneth Gallmore, an internist who lives in Commerce. "He really cares about people. You can't fake that!' Dr. Steven Katzman, a geriatric internist from West Bloomfield, calls Ruza, "very caring, very empathetic. I've seen a lot of psychiatrists who aren't. He's a great communicator!' Ruza, who lives in West Bloomfield, was thinking cardiology when he graduated Southfield-Lathrup High School and Oakland University and headed for the Des Moines University College of Osteopathic Medicine. A summer rotation under his psy- chiatrist uncle, Dr. Gerald Shiener, M.D., at Sinai Grace Hospital in Detroit changed his mind. He completed a residency in psychiatry at Sinai Grace, started working at Botsford and added a board certification in geriatrics (see vital statistics). His father-in-law, Jack Gun, also influenced Ruza, but in a different way. Gun was a hidden child, who is a frequent speaker as well as a docent at the Holocaust Memorial Center in Farmington Hills. But when Ruza met Gun while dat- ing Gun's daughter, Sandra, back in high school, his future father-in-law was silent on the topic. "When I was a kid, I tried to put it on the backburner," Gun, a West Bloomfield resident, says. "Most people weren't interested to hear it. When my own children were teenagers, I still wasn't ready to talk. "I used to send them off [to talk] to my brother. Thanks to him, I lived!" Marital Bonds Anszel Gun, then 17, and Jack, then 8, hid in the forests of eastern Poland from August 1942 to April 1944, when they were liberated by the Russians. They lost both parents and a sister. "I'm 74 and I'm afraid to sleep home alone," Jack Gun says. "I'm very afraid of close places. I don't like to go in an elevator by myself. All of us have something — some big, some small!' His father-in-law's story "made me more aware of the needs of survivors:' Ruza says. He also sees a different psycho- logical profile between concentration camp survivors and hidden children. "I think it must be very hard for a non-Jew to be as empathetic!" Aging brings bacK t h e Holocaust experience, Drr Ruza says, "He appreciates things more know- ing what I went through:' Gun says. "He is also very close to my brother" By contrast, Ruza once treated a patient who was a former Nazi. "Peter was an older manic depressive who was one of Hitler's Youth." The man, who died last year, immi- grated to the United States in the 1950s, worked for Ford Motor Co. and eventually "ended up in a psychiatric ward:' but with the caveat that he didn't want any Jewish doctors treat- ing him. Ruza was initially reluctant to do so. "The reason I stuck by him is that I wanted him to understand that just because he was a Nazi, I wasn't going to turn my back on him." At a certain point, Peter was able to say that he was brought up to hate Jews, Ruza says. "He did show remorse and regret. I had to latch onto some- thing to be able to treat him. He came full circle because, in the end, all of his doctors were Jewish. "That was a tough one." ❑