To Life! Common Bonds Oak Park Tri-Synagogue event brings women together to share. Lynne Meredith Schreiber Special to the Jewish News D oris Schey has attended every Tri-Synagogue - women's program in Oak Park since they began in the 1990s, and the sixth annual Women's Night Out in Septem- ber was no exception. She smiled from her seat at the cloth-covered round table she shared with women from her synagogue — Congregation Beth Shalom — and also from Temple Emanu-El and Young Israel of Oak Park. "What's nice about this is that everybody from different denominations is sitting at the same table said Schey of Huntington Woods. "It's one of the few times we have the chance to sit and talk, exchange ideas, and see that we're not so different. We need to do this more." The joint event was an off- shoot of the Neighborhood Project, a Jewish Federation of Metropolitan Detroit-sponsored effort to stem the tide of Jewish migration and keep Jews in Oak Park and parts of Southfield. After achieving its mission, the project closed in 2003, end- ing innovative programs that brought Jews together across denominational lines. "We thought it would be fun to revive it:' said Jodee Fishman Raines, a member of the Oak Park-based Jewish Community 20 Center's JPM committee, which spearheaded the women's event. "I think this turnout shows that we love being women, we love being Jewish and we love our neighborhood:' she told the audience of about 100 women. On the tables, wicker baskets held canned food items donated by the audience to Yad Ezra, the Berkley-based kosher food pantry. Women ate from a vege- tarian falafel buffet, then lis- tened to speakers from each synagogue as well as Marion Freedman, Neighborhood Project's last director. Then they enjoyed a yoga demonstration by Dalia Rogers. Participants of all ages came almost evenly from the three synagogues and women from congregations outside Oak Park attended as well. Rebuild Community Freedman, who still works for Federation, gave a chronology of the Neighborhood Project. "It really made a difference in this city and this community," she said. "I grew up in a Jewish neighborhood my children never saw, and my mother grew up in a Jewish neighborhood that I never saw:' said Freedman, explaining that Jewish Detroit neighborhoods have a history of migrating every 20 years. "Every time a neighborhood is abandoned, you have to rebuild the community:' she said. The Oak Park JCC was dedi- cated in 1956, Freedman said, and the community is still going strong, beating the migra- tion trend. Although the Project's main purpose was to provide loans to Jewish residents, it branched out into cross-denominational programming to strengthen the community. Women's Night Out programs were the most suc- cessful of the outreach efforts, Freedman said. "Orthodox, Conservative and Reform women recognized there was so much that we share," she said. "We need to look for what we share rather than what keeps us apart." Almost every speaker who followed echoed those words. Elaine Driker of Temple Emanu-El spoke about the con- cept of community from her personal life, including family, friendships, the urban land- scape and religion. A Detroit resident, Driker urged attendees to get involved in rebuilding the city of Detroit and providing a Jewish presence there. Nancy Glen of Huntington Woods, representing Beth Shalom, said, "The places we go and the people with whom we interact is community. Creating community is opening our per- sonal space to others. They give me security and a sense of who I am." Bellischa Mendelsohn of Young Israel of Oak Park said, "I am overwhelmed by how great this community is. I didn't know a soul, but for the first six months we were here [from San Diego], we didn't spend a Shabbat alone. That's so telling of the warmth and generosity of this community." Mendelsohn mentioned the matriarchs Sarah, Rebecca and Rachel as models of Jewish womanhood. She made a plea to withstand material societal pressures and follow those Torah examples. Finally, the lights were dimmed and Dalia Rogers urged everyone to stand up and do some yoga. Dressed in every- thing from fancy skirts to khaki pants, the women bent and stretched for a mellow ending to the night. "Being here, hearing every single woman moved me said Dolores Galea of Detroit, a Temple Emanu-El member. "It's a wonderful event. Having 100 women from all different syna- gogues is just wonderful." The event was planned by a committee of women from the three synagogues: Beth Applebaum, Miriam Ciesla, Rena Friedberg, Margery Klausner, Leslee Magidson, Jodee Fishman Raines, Esther Sherizen, Michelle Sider, Debra Silver, Julie Edgar Sklar, Malke Torgow, Freya Weberman, Margie Yaker and Lisa Yufit. Bellischa Mendelsohn of Young Israel of Oak Park, Elaine Driker of Temple Emanu-El, Nancy Glen of Congregation Beth Shalom and Marion Freedman, who head- ed Federation's Neighborhood Project, all spoke at the sixth annual Tri-Synagogue Women's Project dinner. ❑ October 13 2005 tIN