To Life! SURVIVING ADOLESCENCE from page 31 "People used to think of self-esteem and self-confidence as attitudes that you either have or don't have," Rogers told about 15 mothers. "Actually, it's a set of skills you can consciously devel- op. And that's good news." • Rogers, who has been a school social worker in the Birmingham Schools since 1980, encouraged the mothers to plan many activities jointly with their daughters, to keep the lines of com- munication open. However, some- times the "window of opportunity" opens when driving to and from school, watching television or cleaning up the dinner dishes. "Our children are influenced by the Internet, radio, television, magazines more than ever before," she said, stat- ing that businesses annually spend more than $15 billion on advertise- ments that specifically target kids. Parents have to be proactive to combat this onslaught. In their confidential discussion, one of the mothers said girls today feel pressure to grow up quickly. "Those who don't want to grow up that quick- ly feel like there's something wrong with them," she said. "But they may not feel they want to be so grown up yet. Another mother was troubled by the opposite problem: "Those who look more mature than they really are." Other pressures include wearing the "right" clothes, having the "right" friends and, as one mother put it, "I'm constantly hearing, 'How fat I am!'" When the mothers and daughters reunited for closing activities, each group had prepared a message summa- rizing the most important things they'd learned. The messages were almost identical. All the signs pointed to a successful evening, Rogers said. "At first, every- one was so quiet and then we couldn't get them to stop talking." Ten-year-old Emma Drongowski of Royal Oak said she was glad she came "because I felt good expressing my feelings to other kids." "I thought it was wonderful that everyone shared and opened up," said Lewin, who earned a master's degree in social work from the University of Michigan in 2004. Lynn Feinberg of Huntington Woods said just coming to the meet- ing was good for her relationship with her daughter. "It shows her I care enough to spend an evening doing this with her." ❑ Exercise The Mind JVS and Jewish Home and Aging Services have created the Memory Club for mature citizens who want to learn how to maintain their memory power. This club, located at JVS, 29699 Southfield Road, Southfield, provides memory-enhancing tools to independ- ent people who are concerned about forgetting information they want to retain, like names of persons they just met. In a living room-like setting, club members practice mental and physical exercises to stimulate the brain and enhance memory. Participants exercise their minds GM PRICING TO EVERYONE!! 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Participants play memory-enhancing games like word searches, brainteasers, Scattergories, Boggle and Scrabble. They take field trips to sites including the Henry Ford's IMAX Theatre in Dearborn, Park West Galleries in Southfield and the book fair at the JCC. Then they focus on recalling what they saw and what they find important to retain. Program coordinator Ronnie Berman assists participants, every Tuesday from10 a.m.- 2 p.m. at JVS. Cost is $40 per day, including lunch and field trips. Computer programs help participants remember number sequences, select matching shapes and expand word recall. The program is made possible through a grant from the Shirley Harris Fund with support from Elderlink of the Jewish Federation of Metropolitan Detroit. Special funding for scholarship is now available. For information, call Ronnie Berman, (248) 233-4247, or e-mail rberman@jvsdet.org. 1/11 * * * * * wwweunmo3p.com 979340 On Tuesday, July 5, Congregation B'nai Moshe, in partnership with the New York-based National Jewish Outreach Program, will launch a new summer- time "Learn to Read Hebrew" class for adults who are beginners. The course is being offered under the auspices of the congregation's Kolel Moshe Institute for Lifelong Jewish Learning and will feature curriculum developed by NJOP. The course is open to the community and will meet in the B'nai Moshe education wing on Tuesday mornings from 11 a.m. to noon, through the end of August. There is no charge, but a weekly learning commitment is required. Brother-sister team Benjamin Rosenberg and Allison Shatz will teach the class. Throughout the summer months, Kolel Moshe will offer two Shabbat morning adult study groups ("Torah Portion of the Week" at 10 a.m. with Barry Levine and "Beginner-Plus Prayerbook Hebrew Reading and Comprehension" at 10:30 a.m. with Nancy Kaplan), which are free of charge and open to the community. New stu- dents are welcome. For information, call Nancy Kaplan, (248) 737-1931; visit the B'nai Moshe Web site www.bnaimoshe.org ; or e-mail kolelmoshe@comcast.net.