Jewish Apartments & Services is
pleased to announce the honorees for
THE 2005 EIGHT OVER EIGHTY SENIOR
ADULT JEWISH HALL OF FAME:
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Barbara and Sidney Stutz of Franklin;
brothers-in-law and sisters-in-law and
aunts and uncles Marsha and Harvey
Auslander of West Bloomfield, Sheldon
and Marcie Weinstein of Southfield,
Ruth and Tim Kleinheksel of Holland,
Michigan, David and Karen Weinstein
of Jamaica, N.Y., Kenneth Weinstein
of Lake Tahoe, Nev.; nieces and
nephews and cousins Joni and John
Alsfasser, Suzanne Auslander, Kevin
Auslander, Amy Kleinheksel, Mindy
Kleinheksel, Avi and Shoshana
Weinstein, Kristine and Dale Kelley,
Benjamin and Giah Portnoy,
Nathaniel, Louis and Joe Kelley,
Lauren and Daniel Reiff, Clara and Jeff
Surowitz, Brenna and Jamie Karbel,
Colin and Rani Stutz.
Judy was the daughter of the late
Ethel and the late Irving Reiff and the
daughter-in-law of the late Fred
Private interments were held at the
Birmingham Temple Memorial Gardens.
Contributions honoring the memory
of the Weinsteins may be made to
Landmark Education (for scholarships
to the Landmark Forum), 33454 Seven
Mile Road, Livonia, MI 48152; Camp
Keshet do the Birmingham Temple,
28611 W 12 Mile Road, Farmington
Hills, MI 48334, or The Sky's the
Limit Productions, do Lisa Muscio,
30949 Oak Valley Court, Farmington
Hills, MI 48331. Arrangements by
Attorney Barry LaKritz of
Bloomfield Hills is acting as family
spokesperson and legal counsel. Those
wishing to extend condolences to the
family or anyone with information
concerning significant events leading
up to the fatal collision can contact
him at (248) 723-4747 or
Dealing With Tragedy
Sunday, May 15
Inside Handelman Hall at the Jewish Community Center
6600 W. Maple Rd. on the Eugene and Marsha Applebaum
Jewish Community Campus in West Bloomfield
Open to the public.
11:00 Brunch $65,
by Matt Prentice Restaurant Group, reserved seating.
12:00 Induction Ceremony- No charge (donations accepted)
no reserved seating.
Mistress of Ceremonies:
from WJBK Fox 2 News.
All the funds raised at the Eight Over Eighty event go
directly to provide food for JAS residents with incomes
below the federal poverty level.
For Information/advertising opportunities contact JAS Marketing
Director Pete Wurdock: 248.592.1101 • Pwurdock@Jasmi.org
To reserve a seat for brunch or to charge by phone: 248.592.1102
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Homicide. Suicide. Terrorism.
but these hints can help children
Abuse. Youth violence. Death. All
cope. Remember that young children
are words that send shivers up our
have no real understanding of death;
children ages 5-9 may see-death
For many of us, these are just words,
abstractly; pre-teens know death is
things that affect others but not us. We final but may express anger and
read the words and silently whisper
despair in light of the senselessness.
thanks that "it" didn't happen to us.
• Be truthful.' Lying or misrepre-
The tragedy of 9-1.1 taught us
senting the truth can negatively
about the fragility of human exis-
affect a child's ability to cope with
tence in a way most of us -
future losses. Individualize
had never experienced
your responses according to
before — a reminder of
the needs of the child.
past horrors of war and
• Be a good listener.
concentration camps, of
Children need to talk
feeling unsafe and fearful in our own_ about their experiences and to be
country, of watching the certainty in
heard as often as necessary.
our lives crumbled into the rubble of Encourage expression of grief
the Twin Towers.
through words, stories, art, music or
Many others and I re-experienced
any way that helps them acknowl-
this sense of tragedy and horror on
edge their feelings.
May 3 when we heard the news
• You don't have all the answers.
about a fatal automobile collision in
Be respectful of your child's ques-
'Farmington Hills. We were horrified
tions and be willing to help the child
to learn that three members of the
figure out his or her own answers.
Weinstein family died in this tragic
• Grieving is a process. It takes
accident. Our Jewish community
time, patience and much support to
mourns these senseless deaths, yet
help children feel some degree of
the Weinstein family tragedy does
control over their feelings.
not know the boundary of race, reli-
• Resume normal activities. Re-
gion or ethnicity. We all weep for
establishing daily routines is critical
them and their surviving family •
in helping the child (and the adult)
work through their loss.
In two days alone, I had 14 fami-
lies contact my psychology office in
— Dr. Barbara Foley, a licensed
the aftermath of the Weinstein
psychologist in Farmington Hills
tragedy regarding how to cope with
this kind of loss.
For a longer version of this article,
There is no "right" way to grieve,