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explains that most people simply
want to "get over or "get through"
their grief, but that they actually can
grow and be enriched through grief
hroughout his rabbinical
career, Rabbi Maurice Lamm once they learn to transcend it.
Powerful, profound and written in
has met with hundreds,
an accessible style, Consolation is an
probably thousands, of mourners,
and has touched
appropriate
even more people
choice to bring
through his land-
to a shivah
mark book, The
home for the
Jewish Way in
mourners to
Death and
read, and also
Mourning, first
for their friends
The Spiritual Journey Beyond. Grief
published 30 years
and family. The
growing num-
ago. So it's very
ber of people
surprising to hear
taking part in
him say that he
recently came to
Chevra Kadisha
the realization that
groups (literally,
he has not satisfac-
Holy Society,
torily consoled a
referring to the
single mourner.
communal soci-
eties involved
"I was not aware
that I did not
with burial and
understand mourn-
other rituals
ing as our sages
related to death
MAURICE LAMM
did," Rabbi Lamm
and mourning)
Author of The Jewish Way. in Detah and Mournink
will also find
said in an inter-
view.
much of inter-
est here.
He has come to a
new understanding
The author,
In his new book,
of the mourning
who is founder
Rabbi Maurice
and president of
process, which he
Lamm explains:
shares in his new
the National
book of Jewish wis- "To comfort is
Institute for
human, to console
dom, Consolation:
Jewish Hospice
divine."
The Spiritual
and a professor
Journey Beyond
at the Yeshiva
Grief (Jewish
University's
Publication Society;
Rabbinical
$30).
Seminary,
explains that grief is not an illness,
As he writes, he now realizes that
but something quite natural. He
"there is no effective consolation
without God's intervention, that real calls on the work of philosophers,
consoling is beyond the capability of poets and psychologists, along with
the ancient rabbis.
mere people. To comfort is human,
"The way to reach consolation,"
to console divine." He guides
Rabbi Lamm says, "is to confront
mourners along the path to consola-
the death and not hide from it, to
tion, and he shows those close to
remember the person and not to for-
them how they can listen and speak
get."
from their hearts to promote heal-
ing.
"The primary agenda of shivah is
narrative," he continues. "By that, I
Although the subject is grounded
in sadness, this is actually a life-
affirming book. Rabbi Lamm
TRANSCENDING GRIEF on page 62

SAN D EE BRAWARS KY
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