EDITOR'S NOTEBOOK Jewish America's Strife W hat. scares me most about being Jewish in America is the forebod- ing impact of the steady drumbeat of intermarriage, acculturation, assimilation and apathy. Jews make up just 2 percent of the U.S. population. But with 6 million Jews, America has even more Jews than Israel. So for better or worse, the American Jewish experience reverberates around the ROBERT A. world. SKLAR A provost at the Conservative movement's Editor seminary tells about a group of modern Orthodox parents who sent their kids to Israel for a year of post-high school yeshivah study "as a form of inoculation against what they will encounter at college campuses and beyond upon their return." Parents chose this path, said Jack Wertheimer, provost and professor of American Jewish history at the Jewish Theological Seminary in New York, "despite their unhappiness with the narrow world view promoted at most such yeshivot, which is at odds with their own lives and professions." Wertheimer shared this notion in a com- mentary he e-mailed to me this week. His conclusion shook me up as we embark on the 350th anniversary of the arrival of the first Jews in America. He affirmed the vul- nerability of American Jewish life as dark clouds of fear and uncertainty settle above our kids and grandkids. As he put it: "Parents who are religiously observant and Jewishly engaged — and Wertheimer who have sent their children to day schools from pre-school through high school, raised them in dense Jewish communities, enrolled them in Jewish summer camps and took them on trips to Israel —seriously doubt whether they have adequately prepared their children to live as com- mitted Jews in America's open society" In short, parents whose kids were raised under a virtual Jewish tent still fear the allure of America's bounty and pull. savor these sparks. On another front, Wertheimer had the guts to say what many of us only whisper: Big Jewish givers help every conceiv- able universal cause but often at the expense of Jewish needs. "Everyone knows that most Jewish philanthropists bestow their largesse disproportionately upon universities, the sym- phony, the local art museum — and give only a fraction of those sums to Jewish causes," he said. It's my sense that Jewish big givers embrace Jewish causes more in Detroit than elsewhere, thanks in part to the lead of Detroit Jewry's patriarch, Max Fisher. Byproducts of diverted giving include Jewish schools with insufficient money to offer competitive pay or enough schol- arships, human service agencies having to cut programs and staff, and synagogues trying to fend off spiraling dues. "The dirty little secret of American Jewish life is that a shrinking population can afford the skyrocketing costs of Jewish living," Wertheimer said. "And Jewish institutions, in turn, are struggling to find qualified people to staff their pro- grams, given the paltry remuneration they can offer. "More broadly, it is considered counterproductive and unduly negative to talk openly about the dangers posed to Jews by the permeable boundaries of American society." He's right: Anxiety levels reveal more Jews implicitly acknowledging the gamble of raising kids in such an open environment. Seeds Of Opportunity Consider politically charged U.S. campuses. Students are more likely to come upon a pro-Palestinian rally than some- thing pro-Israel. Trying to apply Wertheimer's logic to our campuses, I reflected on the incisive talk I had with a coun- selor from Israel's Tzofim Friendship Caravan, which did five shows over four days in metro Detroit and Ann Arbor last week. The singer-dancers, 10 Israeli scouts ages 16 and 17, are destined for service in Israel's army after high school. Merav Horsandi, 27, is a counselor with Caravan Tavor, one of three Tzofim summer troupes touring North America. The former Israeli army edu- cational officer is studying political science Ignoring Erosion and Mideast history at Tel Aviv University. At stake is Jewish America. She also works there as a research assistant. "Indeed, the can-do spirit of America has so suffused the I found the native-born Israeli, from community that it has become socially gauche to remind Givatayim near Tel Aviv, friendly and American Jews about some of the less visible, but nonetheless thoughtful. "American Jews who see a pro- very real, forces eroding Jewish life," Wertheimer said. Palestinian rally on campus feel strengthened He hammered on a belief that haunts me: American Jews with Israel's situation," she said. "At the same Horsandi are quick to speak out against the building currents of anti- instant, they identify with Israel because Semitism abroad, but often back down from addressing our they're Jewish. weaknesses at home. "Even if they never thought about Israel before, or never "Whereas a decade ago the community fixated on high rates talked about Israel or been there, they start to get interested of intermarriage," he said, "it met the latest figures with a collec- because of this connection. Jews everywhere are connected tive yawn despite the fact that the National Jewish Population through Israel." Study of 2000 found an intermarriage rate of 47 percent. And they are. "Given the vast numbers of Jewish families touched by But it will take more than just new synagogues, schools, intermarriage, including some of the wealthiest, communal Hillel buildings, community centers, senior housing, social leaders avoid discussing the likely consequences of this trend services and Orthodox outreach centers for the American for the future vitality of American Jewry " Jewish experience to flourish. We should hear tremors, not yawns. Like Wertheimer, I'm a believer that we'll also need seeds Intermarriage no doubt stems from a willingness to assimi- that yield parents who yearn to be role models, synagogues late despite the shaky Jewish American hope that every Jew that speak to congregants and an inclusiveness that hurdles marries within the faith. At issue for me is the rush among age, observance, interfaith and gay rights barriers. many to make interfaith homes off limits. Such rejection is Most important is having the collective will to hurry and not the Jewish way. Many mixed families instill Jewish values regroup before the American Jewish community reaches the and raise Jewish kids; conversion may even follow. We must point of no return. ❑ AIN 8/ 6 2004 5