OTHER VIEWS Israel Discriminates On Marriage New York/JTA mong the series of life-cycle events — birth, bar/bat mitz- vah, marriage and death — Jews long have recognized marriage as a spe- cial simchah, or occasion for joy. Just ask the devoted readers of Jewish and other metropolitan newspapers' weddinab sections. Unfortunately, the Jewish state seems determined to extend its blessings for these most basic and important of personal 1. unions only so far. Recently, Israel's Knesset defeated two bills that would finally have allowed civil marriages as well as recognized religious JASON marriages performed GITLIN by Reform and Point Conservative rabbis. The decision, which wasn't even close, didn't just severely wrong Israel's growing number of non- Jewish and secular citizens. It also disap- pointed and embarrassed non-Orthodox Jews in the United States and those who support Israel's claim as the Middle East's only democratic, enlightened nation. Under current laws, couples who wish legally to be wed in Israel must be mar- ried in a religious ceremony, and one conducted by a state-recognized clergy- man. For Jews, that means only one thing: an Orthodox rabbi. If the couple is comprised of a Jew and a non-Jew — an arrangement most common among the country's Russian immigrant population — or members of a non-recognized faith or no faith at all, it means they are completely out of luck. For many Israelis, such requirements simply are untenable. Consequently, thousands of Israelis leave their home country to get married abroad, most often flying to nearby Cyprus. They marry abroad either because they do not qualify for wedlock — the state has determined them not marriage-worthy — or because they want to bypass the religious establishment. Israel's archaic approach to marriage can be traced back to the state's estab- lishment, when then-Prime Minister David Ben-Gurion conceded authority over religion and personal-status issues A Jason Gitlin, a graduate of New York University's Center for Near Eastern Studies, has written for the New Jersey Jewish News, the Jewish Week, and CBSNewYork.com 4/ 9 2004 32 — such as birth, marriage and divorce — to the Orthodox Jewish establish- ment. Although evidence suggests that Ben- Gurion believed this was a dwindling population whose power would only erode in the future, the opposite turned out to be true. Over time, Israel's haredi, (fervently Orthodox) population not only failed to wither, but it grew both in size and political influence. In Israel's last election, frustration over perceived religious coercion and the dis- criminatory practices of the state's reli- gious political parties led to a backlash. The result was that Shinui, a secularist party that campaigned on curbing the power of the Orthodox establishment, went from seven Knesset seats to 15, making it the third-largest party after Likud and Labor. In addition, advocates for a more plu- ralistic approach to Jewish life in Israel gained widespread attention in the 1990s amid the "who is a Jew" debate, which centered on the religious author- ity's refusal to recognize Reform and Conservative conversions performed in Israel. So, in light of such developments, how did our enlightened brethren vote? As might sadly be expected, 58 Knesset members from Israel's religious and right-wing parties — Likud, the Nation Union, the National Religious Party, Shas and United Torah Judaism — voted against the bill to allow for non-Orthodox marriage. Far more dis- tressing was that only 28 Knesset mem- bers from the secular and left-leaning parties — Labor, Meretz, Shinui and the Arab parties — voted in favor of the bill. The biggest disappointments were Shinui and Labor. Shinui, a partner in the current governing coalition, lamely cited a commitment by coalition minis- ters not to vote against the official coali- tion stand. Despite trampling on the party's rai- son d'etre, Yosef "Tommy" Lapid, Shinui's party head and Israel's justice minister, had the gall to gloat after the vote that nine of his party's members — just over half— voted in favor of the bill while only seven of Labor's did. For its part, Labor performed the most dishonorably. Despite being in the Knesset at the time of the vote, most of the party's leaders did not even show up for the session. Among those who decid- GITLIN on page 33 Laws Preserve Jewish Identity New York/JTA n Israel, "personal-status" issues, such as those related to marriage and conversion, are the perennial focus of social campaigns, legislative ini- tiatives and good old-fashioned politics. Often, though, when issues like con- version, marriage or divorce are on the agenda, what gets lost in all the heat and noise is something recently pointed out by Israel's former chief Ashkenazi rabbi, Yisrael Meir Lau. "After 55 years," Lau reminded an audience at a recent conference in Jerusalem, "the Knesset has not, to this day, found the time to take five days and discuss what exactly this Jewish state we have created is meant to be." "The words 'Jewish state,"' he went on, "are mentioned 22 times in Israel's Declaration of Independence — not `state of the Jews,' but rather 'Jewish state.' And yet the Knesset . has never found the time to define what that means. And so, in the dearth of such definition, what happens is that issues intricately related to that truly fundamental one are isolated and individually subjected to a tug-of-war among an assortment of Israeli social forces — both larger ones like religious nationalists, haredim (fer- vently Orthodox) and secularists, as well as smaller ones like advocates for the Reform, Conservative and Reconstructionist movements. Many factors are weighed, and many interests vie to be accommodated in the debates surrounding these important issues. On kashrut, for example, there are questions like: Should the Israel Defense Forces serve only kosher food? Should pork be imported to Israel? The debate on conversion focuses on what standards, if any, there should be for accepting as Jewish someone not born so. The debate on Shabbat grapples with questions like: Should public transportation run on the Jewish Sabbath? Should certain roads or neighborhoods be closed to traffic on Saturdays? Usually lost in the shuffle in all these debates, however, is the import of decisions on the larger issue of the state's Jewish identity. When it comes to marriage and divorce for Jewish Israelis, things are even more hairy — and the stakes are even higher. Marriages, after all, can produce I Rabbi Avi Shafran is director of public affairs at Agudath Israel of America. children, and most indeed do. So while it might seem like an innocu- ous and good idea to expand the mar- . riage and divorce options of Israelis, in truth it is neither. Preserving traditional Jewish marriage and divorce standards as a common denominator is not a religious luxury but a societal necessity. A smor- gasbord of standards would be a recipe for societal disaster. By rejecting the proposed legislation to authorize civil mar- riage in Israel, the Knesset helped ensure that "marriage" will continue to have uni- form meaning for all Israeli Jews; that chil- dren born of Jewish marriages in Israel will RABBI AVI be able to marry one SHAFRAN another without con- Counterpoint cern regarding issues of Jewishness or legiti- macy; and that Jews in Israel will remain one people, united around a standard that lends legitimate substance to the Jewish character of the state. To be sure, Israel is not a theocracy And in fact, Israelis — non Jews and Jews alike — are free to live their private lives largely as they choose. But if the Jewish identity of the state is to have any meaning at all, it must reside at the very least in its communal institutions. If a Jew, for instance, wishes to marry a non-Jew, the couple has the option of marrying outside the country or simply living together without the state's impri- matur. Were the state to be compelled to endorse their union officially, however, it might gratify the couple, but it would tear apart the very fabric of Israel's Jewish identity. And so it is with other Jewish laws — whether dietary laws, Sabbath laws or marriage laws. To challenge them as incompatible with Israel's democratic nature would be to eviscerate her Jewish nature. Do Jews — of any persuasion or belief — really want to see an Israel where ham and lobsters are served to Jewish youth in military mess halls, or where traffic is as heavy and stores as busy on Shabbat as on Thursday, or where marriage is a mere agreement between two parties, without the gravity of any religious sanction? Some might well say yes, and that is their prerogative. But it is a simplistic position, born of emotion and a myopic focus on individual issues at the expense of a larger, looming imperative: Israel's Jewish identity. n