"Everything's got a moral if only you can
— Lewis Carroll
here are any number of old,
"wise" sayings. Often, however,
the advice given in one seems
to contradict the advice given
For sentimentalists, "Absence makes
the heart grow fonder." This, of course, is
not always successful as a method of
establishing closeness if you consider that
"Out of sight, out of mind" is often true.
If you think you ought to speak out about something,
you may be reminded, "A closed mouth
catches no flies." Yet, you may rejoin
with, "A squeaky wheel
gets the grease."
Laughter is thought to
be a boon to life as wit-
nessed in "A day is lost if
one has not laughed" or
"If you don't laugh, you'll
cry." Also consider,
"Laugh before breakfast
and you'll cry before din-
ner" and "Laugh and the
world laughs with you; cry
and you cry alone.
Trying to teach someone
the value of waiting, con-
sider "Patience is a virtue."
If that it true, how do we
validate "If not now,
If "A miss is as good as a
mile," then why offer
"Nothing ventured, noth-
ing gained"? Keep in mind
that "He who hesitates is lost;" but if you "Act in haste,
you repent at leisure." And though "Better late than
never" is good, we know that "First come, first served"
is an oft-quoted rule.
Though "Every man has his price," always keep in
mind "Buyer beware!" Speaking of price, you may be
offered "A penny for your thoughts;" but "Even a fish
would not get into trouble if it kept its mouth shut."
And though "Charity begins at home" and "It is better
to give than to receive"; "He who goes a-borrowing,
goes a-sorrowing" so "Neither a borrower nor a lender
Yes, "Actions speak louder than words," but "A word
to the wise is sufficient" because "Great ideas are the
fuel of progress."
For those who are concerned with looks, there are the
reminders: "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder;"
"Beauty is only skin deep;" "Handsome is as
handsome does." Yet,
"Anything with scales counts
as a fish" even though
"Appearances are deceptive."
If you are concerned about
others, "Before healing oth-
ers, heal yourself;" and in
doing so, "An apple a day,
keeps the doctor away."
If you are tempted to "Do
what comes naturally," you
should "Do unto others as
you would have them do
unto you" all the while
recalling, "Forewarned is
All of you out there who
think, "Birds of a feather
flock together," should
remember that it's
"Different strokes for dif-
ferent folks." ❑
wo months in the Jewish
calendar are described with
opposite descriptions. In
one, joy increases as the
month progresses; in the other, joy
decreases. Can you name the months
and the reasons?
•1(01 QSED.TOQp 01 pigs S T. csurj (Avcci
aisn) Av Jo asEj alp tplAm Suynp 'AV
Jo tpuoul a1-LL -ssauTnyCor asuaapui of
pus ST cspj arland gaignn Supnp qupv
Jo tpuolu auauSuuds ata :iamstry
"The National Jewish Population
Survey reveals the many important
and diverse ways that Jews are con-
nected to their faith and their com-
munity. Still, the study underscores
that for too many, those ties are tenu-
ous. We have a great deal of work to
do to make being Jewish more mean-
ingful and relevant for those on the
— Stephen Hoffman, president and
CEO of United Jewish Communities,
the umbrella for the North American
Your bargain-store days will be gone.
"He's kayach reich,** your boyfriend
That shmaltz goob** you fell in,"
I told my friend Helen,
"Will mean life's g'shmeert*** from
— Martha Jo Fleischmann
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family, and that my candlelighting be as meaningful as was our mothers'
Sarah, Rebecca, Rachel and Leah."
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* (literal) strongly rich
(idiomatic) very wealthy
** (literal) fat pit
(idiomatic) tub of money
(idiomatic) greased, as with money
Literally: animal, especially used for a
cow; also, a stupid man or woman, an
ignoramus, a dumbbell.
Source: From The New Joys of Yiddish
by Leo Calvin Rosten, edited by
Lawrence Bush, copyright 2001, by
the Rosten Family LLC. Used by per-
mission of the Rosten Family LLC.