Come see what all the fi lz is about at THE FOUNTAINS AT FRANKLIN We can jazz up your life ... THE FOUNTAINS AT FRANKLIN customs and observances. "Certainly, he says, "we differ from community to community, we have dis- parate manifestations." But if you really want your child to love his fellow, emphasize what it is that binds us. "We are all Jews," he says. 'And we need that sense of community, especially in these times when so much is going on that could threaten the Jewish people." Rabbi David Nelson of Congregation Beth Shalom concurs. 'Love' translates to respecting another," he says. The idea that we should respect other human beings — both Jews and gentiles Cohen: Get chil- — is a basic dren involved. understanding of our religious teach- ings," he continues. If you want your children to respect their fellows, parents should begin by speaking kindly of oth- ers. Their children's actions will follow suit. "The key is not to focus on the adjec- tive, whether someone identifies as Orthodox, Conservative or Reform, but instead emphasize the 'Jewish' part," Rabbi Nelson says. Rabbi Fliezer Cohen of Congregation Or Chadash, an instructor at Yeshivat Akiva in Southfield, adds that parents truly committed to teaching v'ahavta l'rayach kamocha should get their children involved through actions. Nelson: Look past "The best way to adjectives. teach anything — particularly when it comes to interper- sonal relations — is to be role models," he says. "And when it comes to anything their parents do in terms of their fellow Jews [such as giving tzedakah or inviting guests for Shabbat], children should not only see their parents, they should be included." You Heard It First Now, back to that refrigerator. There's a reason so many families do keep great quotes on the refrigerator and elsewhere: They serve as a quick reminder of what to do, how to behave. Here are a few (from Pirke Avot, The Sayings of the Fathers) for your refrigera- tor, or anywhere else around the home: Deeds of kindness weigh as much as all the other commandments. Who is wise? He who learns from every person. — Rabbi Akiva The world is judged by goodness, and everything depends on the abundance of good deeds. Do not judge another until you are in his position. — Rabbi Hillel Let the property of your neighbor be as precious as you own. Do not placate your friend during the time of his anger, do not attempt to console him while his dead lies before him, do not question someone when he has made a vow, do not strive to see someone in the hour of his disgrace. Let your pupil's honor be as dear to you as your own, and the honor of your col- league as reverence for your teacher, and the reverence for your teacher as the rever- ence for God. Despise no one and do not discard any- thing for there is no one whose hour does not come and nothing without its place. Beloved is humanity, for it was creat- ed in the image of God. — Rabbi Akiva To Tell The Truth Rabbi Akiva said `11 person should throw himself into a fiery furnace if only not to see the disgrace of his fellow." A story passed among Jewish friends on the Internet purports to tell "The Truth About Husbands." It is the true tale of a woman who, upon becoming engaged, receives a costly ring from her future grandmother-in-law. Soon, however, the woman loses it and she becomes the brunt of her husband's family jokes. Four months later, her husband reaches into his coat pocket and there is the ring! He must have put it in his pocket and forgotten. Now, it is the wife who is extolled and the husband who must bear all the teasing. She is bitter; if only her husband hadn't been so thoughtless. Years later, the wife decides to sell the ring and she discovers the truth. Soon after she lost the ring, her husband bought another, then placed it in his coat pocket only to "find" it there. 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