EDITOR'S NOTEBOOK ■ 1111111111 KIPS...13RING YOUR PARENTS! FOUR HOURS OF FAMILY FUN! AN EXTRAORDINARY FAMILY When Values Clash EVENT TO HELP CHILDREN (a sweet pastry) with neighbors in Hebron, a divided aureen Bayer, 31, returned to Michigan six Jewish-Arab city in the disputed territory known as the months ago, but her heart is still in Haifa, West Bank. where she lived for more than a year. So 1101: whenever terrorism grips Israel, she grows Abigail and the bomber got on the Egged bus at the same stop. She was going to a late-afternoon Hebrew lesson. angry about the senseless deaths and she fears for her friends from Haifa University. Reminiscing about her young friend, Bayer said: "I met her. I touched her. I sat next to her and ate taco dip, and we Even though she spent 13 months in Israel, Bayer didn't know any of the victims in 29 months of Palestinian terror both commented on how amazing it was to have store- against the Jewish state — until March 5. bought refried beans, since they're not normally available in Israel." Then Mahmoud Hamdan Kwasma, a 20-year-old student Abigail was buried in a plain wooden coffin. at Hebron Polytechnic University, blew himself up on a U.S. Ambassador Daniel Kurtzer spoke at her funeral, Haifa bus. Like so many Hamas disciples, held in the Christian section of a small cemetery near the his parents and others had taught him to Mediterranean Sea. hate Jews and kill them to please Allah. "She's a true bridge between our two countries, having The blast he triggered killed at least 17 been born in the United States and now, in eternal rest in Israelis. More than 50 were hurt in the Israel," he said. "She's a true bridge between our faiths." attack, which rocked an otherwise typical - Philip Litle knew war is a breeding ground for tragedy, weekday afternoon in the northern port but never imagined his second-oldest child, a bright girl city. Among the dead were teenagers, col- lege students and soldiers. who loved biology and environmental studies, would fall ROBERT A. prey. He told the Israel newsmagazine Israelinsider: "For Bayer teaches Hebrew and advises the SKLAR Abigail, it was always that someone be valued as a person, youth group at Congregation Shir Tikvah Editor not as an object defined by nationality" in Troy. The budding journalist from Hamtramck hopes to graduate next year from Wayne State University in Detroit and make aliyah. "The attack was on a bus line my friends and I traveled Human Toll hundreds of times, in an area we used to shop, eat and see Abigail was the unofficial younger sister of a friend of movies," she said. Bayer's named Alex. He is a Haifa University student "On that bus was someone I'd actually met." who made aliyah Sept. 29, 2000 — when the Bayer knew Abigail Litle, 14, a U.S. citizen Palestinian uprising began. A Latvian orphan with enrolled in the eighth grade at Haifa's Reali High almost no family, he was distraught over Abigail's School. death. "She is with God," he told Bayer. "It is the . Palestinian-provoked terror has claimed at least family who suffers." 759 Israelis and foreign civilians. The victims were But Jews share a history and a heritage. So friends people whose lives mattered. They bravely tried to of terror victims also suffer, as do friends of the Maureen Bayer friends. Said Bayer: "When a terrorist strikes, the tough it out against Muslim militants bent on expelling the Jews from their ancestral homeland. pain goes far beyond the number of dead. It tran- "Abigail was not another Jewish or Muslim vic- scends bloodlines and direct lines of friendship. And tim of this war," Bayer said, "but an American when what you want most to do is wrap your arms Christian for whom Israel is also the holy land." around a friend and give him a hug, but the distance Mature and caring, Abigail took part in Jewish- that separates you won't allow that, the- pain travels Arab school dialogue groups. Classmates called her thousands of miles as well." their guardian angel. Her parents rushed to Philip Litle isn't opposed to peace talks but he con- Rambam Hospital to look for their "wounded" ; demns the terrorists who have hijacked Islam. daughter. Instead, they found only her legs, identi- Abigail Litle "What's the point of destroying the lives of civilian fied by an ankle bracelet, a Christmas gift from people if it really isn't going to change anything?" he friends in America. asked. Bayer discovered Abigail's name by scanning an on-line He aptly brands suicide bombings a "bankruptcy" of list of the dead at 4:15 a.m. March 6. She feared a friend Islamic culture and leadership. 'Any culture that deals with 'could be on it. its problems by turning to violence and destruction of inno- "The waiting is horrible," she said. "Not knowing seems cent people on a bus," he said, "is in need of correction." like the worst thing that can possibly happen. There's noth- Maureen Bayer favors a Palestinian state beside a secure ing to do but keep trying to call and keep checking e-mail." Jewish- state, but knows that won't happen without substan- tial compromise on both sides and the end to terrorism. She's right: The Jewish and Palestinian cultures are so dif- Adopted Home ferent that they're destined to clash. "Pride comes into play The Litle family arrived in Israel in 1989, when Abigail was far more often than the West will admit," she said. _7 months old. Her father, Philip, was a Baptist minister Children are highly impressionable. So whatever diplo- who brought his family from New Hampshire to Israel so matic solutions ultimately bring a cease-fire, I like Bayer's he could study at the Technion-Israel Institute of idea of rallying to change the mindset of kids of all faiths in _Technology. He became a Baptist leader in Israel and they the embattled Mideast — instilling tolerance and allaying never left Haifa. fear, as remote as that seems. Abigail, one of five Litle children, was 14 when she died As Bayer put it: "If children are taught that despite their at the hands of Mahmoud Hamdan Kwasma, whose moth- differences, they're all people, there's a better chance that er celebrated his "deed" by enjoying sweet coffee and knaffe they'll get along in the future." -- - ❑ • WITH SPECIAL NEEDS 2.00 SADO AVIVt 13 NooN - 4 ciM Great Lakes Crossing Auburn Hills g Itf" FOUR HOURS OF UNLIMITED PLAY!* Limited Restrictions in Prize Zone TICKETS: $40 (16 and Over) $20 (Ages 4-15) Under 4 FREE! 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