For The Sake Of Love
ost couples embark on married life
with the hope that their love will
survive in good- times and bad,
through joy and adversity.
But Estelle Mitch, 76, and
Angelo Frigo, 68, are certain their
love will survive adversity. It already
The pair were married by the
Birmingham Temple's Rabbi Adam
Chalom Feb. 22, at the interde-
nominational chapel of Farmington
Hills' Botsford General Hospital —
a mere two weeks after they were
involved in a potentially fatal auto
The accident, in which the pair
crashed head-on into a truck, left
Mitch with a broken ankle and
Frigo with a shattered knee and left
index finger. After surgery at St.
Mary's/Mercy Hospital in Livonia, they were trans-
ferred to Botsford for intensive physical therapy.
"They are very good, very compliant patients,"
said nurse Margaret Brannigan. "They have a lot of
broken bones, but they'll heal; they'll walk again."
Added nurse Connie Lynn, "We always know, if
we can't find Angelo, he's -in Estelle's room, and if
we can't find Estelle, she's in Angelo's room."
The two nurses were among 20 guests at the
Saturday night ceremony, as the two wheelchairs
rolled down the chapel's aisle. Frigo's grandson, 15-
year-old Stephen Patton of Clinton Township, was
best man, and Eve Chalom of New York City, the
rabbi's sister, was maid of honor. Although not relat-
ed by blood, the Chaloms are "my adopted family,"
Both natives of France, Mitch and Frigo first met
30 years ago when the pair took English lessons at
Detroit's International House. Along with Mitch's late
husband, Leo, they formed a close-knit friendship.
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Angelo Frigo and Estelle Mitch share a moment
together before their Feb. 22 wedding.
"'Promise me to keep a secret,' Leo told me four
or five days before he died," Frigo remembered.
"'Promise me to take care of Estelle ... keep this a
secret until the day you can ask her.'"
For her part, Mitch called Frigo "kind, caring and
"I feel secure and happy about spending the rest
of my life with him."
The wedding itself was only a symbol of the
strength the pair has already shown, said Rabbi
Chalom. "I feel I'm adding the last piece to some-
thing you've already built."
The couple's marriage represents the truest form
of love, he said, "Love not for the sake of children,
not for the sake of status — love for the sake of
"As the ner tamid [eternal light above the Holy Ark]
flickers, it continuously reminds us that it is the
light of hope when we are immersed in trouble; it is
the light of faith when we plagued with doubt.
That perpetual light represents the light of the God
within each one of us."
— Rabbi Marla Hornsten of Temple Israel in West
Bloomfield, sermonizing on
Parshat "Tetzaveh" Feb. 14.
"What must a religion of love and goodness do to
confront its history of hatred and harm, to make
amends with its victims and to right itself so that it
is no longer the source of a hatred and harm that,
whatever its past, it would no longer endorse?
— Author Daniel Jonah Goldhagen in his news book
`A Moral Reckoning: The Role of the Catholic Church
in the Holocaust and its Unfulfilled Duty of Repair,"
as quoted in the Jan. 31 issue of the Forward.
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Source: From The New Joys of Yiddish by Leo Calvin
Rosten, edited by Lawrence Bush, copyright 2001,
by the Rosten Family LLC. Used by permission of
the Rosten Family LLC.