NO mit.rtOw Child Friendly... Lots of Booster & High Chairs ■ MEXICAN - GRILL -Pyesk .Patyei-lkyvts everyovke ivvi-o I `MANNERS' from page 67 accountant and tax attorney, were god- sends to Gordy, according to Posner. Not only were they scrupulously hon- est, but they also made Gordy a more careful and responsible businessman, savC: ing him millions of dollars over the years. They were dubbed the "no men," and, without them, Motown would not have been suc c essful, Posner says. T The Novecks elicited a strange com- rnen.t,from Motown president Jay Jewish Lasker, who apparently self, Lasker:often referred to the Novecks as "those Jews." . JN: When having a bar/bat mitz- vah, can you invite people to the service and not the party? JM: The service is a solemn reli- gious ceremony and is the point of the bar or bat mitzvah. What has happened to b'nai mitzvah is that people have come to think of them as parties with a little tedious cere mony. You don't distinguish among guests who are welcome to the party and those who are not. Of course, everyone who belongs to the congre- gation is entitled to come to the service, and you are not obligated to invite them to the party. jam S essions Clarene Wayne owns the Wonderland Music Stores in Dearborn and Novi. It was at the Dearborn store that many of the Motown musicians used to buy their instruments and the famous groups got their sound equipment. "The singers like Wilson used to come in and just hang out," he recalls. "The Dearborn store (at Michigan and Schaefer) was definitely the 'in' place to be. The bands would get together and hold impromptu jam sessions in the basement. "One time, Stevie Wonder surprised passersby by doing a performance right in the window of the store." Wayne's parents, Ruth and Shockey Wayne, started the business as Maestro Music, which later evolved into the Wonderland that Wayne operates with his brother, Larry. A former saxophone and clarinet player at Detroit's Cass Technical High School, Clarence Wayne still keeps in contact with Berry Gordy. "And they shot a scene from the recent documen- tary Standing in the Shadows of Motown right here in the Dearborn store," he says. Another Jewish figure backstage in Motown was Dick Jacobs, who'd been an arranger for the Tommy Dorsey Orchestra and other big bands. Jacobs helped Wilson and other singers bridge the gap between pop music and rock 'n' roll in the 1950s and '60s, achieving many crossover hits that sold millions of records. The Jewish influence on Motown is a bit puzzling and sometimes amusing for Motown insiders. . For one thing, says Abrams, Gordy, who claimed he never even met anyone Jewish until after he started Motown, didn't think it was possible for a person to be a Russian and a Jew at the same time. Also, he adds, it wasn't until the 1960s that Gordy learned there was such an event as the Holocaust. ❑ . JN:, What is the etiquette when going to someone's house to pay a shivah call? JM: You should bring food, because the mourners are not in an emotion- al state to go about taking care of the things needed to sustain their daily life. JN: How have manners in America changed over the past 30 years? JM: There have been vast improve- ments. Open expression of bigotry is no longer tolerated. At the same time, we have a cou- ple of generations of Americans who've liked the idea of being assertive — do what you feel like and don't worry how it effects other people. JN: What are new forms of eti- quette? JM: We have added a lot of new tools, such as e-mail and the cell phone. E-mail is a wonderful device falling somewhere between the tele- phone call, which has the advantage of being instantaneous but the dis- advantage of interrupting people, and the letter, which is more grace- ful but slower. People ask if they can send their wedding invitations by e-mail, and the answer is no, unless it's an extremely informal wedding. However, following up on a job interview with e-mail is fine — it's the main kind of communication in business. JN: You were in Detroit in December promoting your book. What do you think of the manners of people in Detroit? JM: I was there briefly, but I met a lot of charming, nice people. I observed nothing but politeness. ❑ Zagat Guide Los Angeles Open 7 Days.a Week for Liinch & Dinner 17 Mite Rd Corning Soon to Farmington Hills 0.5a141 STANDNQIN THE SHADOWS from page 65 C.0 WOW" February, 2002 at If Southfield - 28644 Telegraph Rd. 1357 Coolidge Hwy. (Maple & Coolidge at Madison Square) (Telegraph and 12 Mile at The Tel-Twelve Mall) 248-822-9000 248-263-2200 gAJA.F26 —s-L' ©- Italian CHOPHOUSE Thursdays All You Can Eat Prime Rib Buy One Lunch, Buy One Dinner, Get 1/2 off Get 1/2 off • the 2nd of equal the 2nd of equal or greater value. value. 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