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According to Communications Professor Joseph Walther of Cornell University in Ithaca, N.Y., who stud- ies online relationships, people mis- representing themselves over the Internet is a real concern. However, people are dishonest in face-to-face settings as well, on issues such as marital status, income level and rela- tionship potential, Walther said. "The Internet didn't invent dis- honesty or heartbreak," explained Walther. "It may facilitate it, but it sure goes on with or without tech- nology." For Sheri, Internet dating is just one more step on the path to meet- ing men, in addition to hobbies or community service. Lucy agrees. "I have nothing to lose by taking an hour out of my life to meet someone for a drink," she said. ❑ Continuing Search 4119 Orchard Lake Rd. (at Pontiac Tr.) West Bloomfield Visit our website www.peternielsen.com 2002 or on date 1,000," Lucy said. Part of the appeal is the conven- ience. "Everybody works and has hectic schedules," she said. A shy person, Lucy also finds it easier to approach men with her computer. "I'm not going to walk up to a guy at a bar and start talking to him. Online, I have no problem." In general, her experience has been positive, she says. Eighty percent of the men she meets are nice, but there is no love connection. Then there are the occasional negative events that can turn you off to the whole thing, she explains. One date didn't offer to pay for her $2 hot chocolate. Another time, when she was five minutes late, the man she was meeting had already ordered without her. One feature of JDate is that you may specify your relationship prefer- ence: a date, a long-term relationship or marriage and children. "If some- one's looking just to date, I don't bother because I already know we're at different places in our lives," Lucy said. Lucy keeps e-mail to a minimum before meeting in person to avoid knowing too much about the person and lacking conversation topics on the date. If there's a general interest, she quickly schedules a coffee. One of her friends kept up a great e-mail exchange for a month with a man, but when they finally met in person, they did not hit it off. Has JDate been successful for Lucy? Well, not if marriage is the goal, but Lucy remains hopeful. "I keep at it because I hope that Mr. Wonderful is out there. If that means going through another two years of blind- dating-hell to meet him, that's fine. I'm not going to settle," Lucy said. Forty-seven-year-old Sheri of West Bloomfield turned to JDate to meet local men when she found she wasn't exposed to many in her everyday life. Also, singles events in Detroit were not geared toward baby boomers. "I'm trying to be open and take more risks to meet Jewish men," Sheri said, admitting that she loves country music and is seeking a "Jewish cowboy." She's had many responses since posting her profile two years ago, but so far no long- term relationships have ensued. 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