Ask Wendy Baby Shower Better After The Birth excruciating reminder of Dear Wendy: what she has lost. Yes, we My best friend is four- live in an age of medical months' pregnant with her miracles, but I have person- first child and wants me to ally known women who throw her a baby shower. have lost children not just in "Jews don't have baby show- their first trimester, but days ers before the baby is born," before their delivery date. In I keep saying. "What's the this case, custom may seem big deal?" she keeps saying. WE NDY indistinguishable from The more I think about it, BELZ BERG superstition. But why tempt what is the big deal? Spec ial to fate? —Unsure of the reasoning the Jewi sh News You don't have to be Dear Wendy: Jewish to believe it's a bad idea to What do you think of marriage throw a shower for an unborn baby. before marriage? My counseling Spread the word. fiance thinks we should go into ther- Here's the big deal: Something apy together. Like every couple, we goes wrong. Should your friend really have issues and our arguments can be surrounded at a time like that by become rather heated. But the sug- onesies, car seats and bottle sterilizers? gestion to see a counselor makes me The items would only serve as an feel as if my fiance thinks our rela- tionship is doomed. —Squeamish about counseling If more people thought like your fiance, I suspect there would be fewer divorces. Surviving — not to mention thriving in — a marriage is hard work, and has been proven to be more than many people are capable of. A good counselor can teach you critical skills: how to communicate, how to fight fair and how and when to compromise. I suppose there's a risk that coun- seling may lead your fiance to con- clude that your issues are irresolvable. But wouldn't you rather know that before your parents spend too much money on a wedding and before you have children? 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