Market Ask Wendy Don't Spurn Your Lesbian Daughter Dear Wendy: live a false life because Jewish Some years ago, my daugh- law prohibits homosexuality. ter, now 29, told me that she is And while many rabbis will a lesbian. To say my heart is disagree, I don't believe they broken and that I am in a per- would counsel you to reject petual state of mourning for your daughter based on her the child I thought I had nur- choices. Your daughter showed tured is an understatement. I great courage by being honest don't know what to do; I don't with you. It is time for you to know how to be in my mind. do the same. She is the same WENDY My daughter has moved to the child you carried, watched rake West Coast and occasionally BELZBERG her first steps, held and com- exchanges e-mail with me, but Special to forted when her tears would when I mailed her a letter not stop. She is the same child the Jewish News recently, the post office you loved and adored. Don't returned it. I pray to HaShenz lose your daughter over her and look for guidance. Any help you sexual preferences. could offer would be a straw to hold on Your daughter will give you her real to. Know Whizz- To Do Its true: this story does not end the way you (and every parent) planned with husbands and wives, children and grandchildren, all living happily ever after. But I believe that no one should address once she no longer feels she must hide from you. Stop mourning for her and the things she is not, and accept and love her for who she is. Dear Wendy: I have a wonderful husband. a sound marriage and a beautiful new baby. In spite of it all, I have been feeling depressed for several months. I have. run out of sympathetic listeners. Friends and family try to cheer me up by pointing to everything I have in my life. (They may as well come out and say, "People are buried alive in India, what do you have to complain about?") My husband is supportive but even he has been saying that it's time for me to "get over it." I know everyone means well, but their words end up making me feel worse, not better. — Feeling Down And Blue Let me preface my answer by saying that I don't know you. I don't know how old your baby is and I am not privy to any parrs of your past. By issuing all of the above disclaimers, I hope to stem the ride of angry mail that might come my way for offering the following diagnosis: You may be suffering from postpartum depression. (Men: Don't make this diag- nosis at home. It is the equivalent of sug- gesting your wife has PMS). *If you are not ordinarily prone to depression or moodiness, the birth of a baby can often be a trigger. You have a lot to contend with: hormones, nursing and sleep deprivation, guilt for feeling down when you have a healthy newborn and a body that doesn't match your body image. Before you see a counselor, see your obstetrician/gynecologist. 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