Market!)late- Ask Wendy I'm Adopted, But Will Ilk Accepted? Dear Wendy: based your life on only partial truths, you may want to focus instead on finding your birth parents. The only thing that matters is how the woman who gave you up for adoption will receive you. Her decision to allow you to find and meet her is a personal choice, not one dictated by religion or Jewish WE NDY law. BELZ BERG Even if there is a very com- pelling reason why the secret Speci at to of your birth was kept from the Jewi sh News you for so long — and it is hard to imagine that there is — you will also have to come to terms —Wondering with the family that raised you. You If your birth mother was Jewish, you have your work cut out for you. Do not are a Jew and will be acknowledged as confuse your search for a family with such by the Jewish community. your affinity for Judaism. The Jewish Otherwise, you may eventually decide community has been there for centuries you want to convert. Either way, there is and will still be there once you solve a place for you. some of the other, more pressing mys- It seems to me, however, that upon teries you face. discovering at the age of 44 that you have Dear Wendy: I am 44 years old and I recently found out that I was adopted. Furthermore, I believe that I was born to a Jewish family. I was not raised as a Jew, but I've always felt a strong affinity for Judaism. What kind of reception can I expect from the Jewish com- munity as an adoptee search- ing for my birth family? Will I be accepted more read- ily if I was originally born to a Jewish family, like a "lost sheep" returning to the fold? Offer your husband and his mother some well-earned quiet time while you take the kids to visit your parents. (Perhaps your husband feels the same w about your mother that you feel about his.) If you can't handle all three childre alone, make it special for everyone by taking one child at a time. Finally, if your parents don't want your mother-in-law staying in their home, they could always come to visit you and check into a hotel. Encourage your parents to stay on topic. They may kvell about the grandchildren, but the subject of in-laws is strictly off lim its. ❑ My 78-year-old mother-in-law lives with us and our three children, ages 9, 5 and 1. I respect her and am grateful to her for helping with our children and the house so my husband and I can work. The problem is my parents: They don't like her and appear to be jealous and resentful of her place in our lives and the lives of our children. They want me to leave my mother-in- law at "home" when the family comes to visit. Given her age and physical condition, my husband and I do not feel comfortable leaving her alone. Nothing I say to my parents seems to get through. —Fighting Resentment There is nothing wrong with your par- ents expressing a desire to have time alone with you and their grandchildren, even if they don't express that wish as kindly as they might. And there are ways to accommodate your parents' wishes without hurting anyone's feelings. 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