rs---- 11;;;etplace Ask Wendy Don't Hesitate To Share Feelings Dear Wendy: 12-step program to a newly I grew up in a religious read book — can be annoying home. A close friend of mine if you do not share the same has just recently become reli- point of view. At least she is gious. She has the zeal of a spouting Torah and nor the baal teshuvah (a non-observant teachings of Hare Krishna. Jew who becomes observant), Since she is a close friend, you but she has the knowledge of a can comfortably tell her what is child. She has started covering on your mind. Your other choice her hair, but she wears tight is to just steer clear for a while WENDY blue jeans; she has two sets of and allow your friend's education dishes, but many of the prod- BE LZBERG to catch up with her enthusiasm. ucts in her kitchen do not have This could, however, take a year Special to the proper rabbinical seal. She or two. Remind her that Jewish the J ewish News has also begun criticizing, law is based on different inter- albeit gently, some of my pretations of text, makc sure she observances. I don't want to squelch her has a good rabbi, and encourage her to enthusiasm, but I can't listen to any enroll in classes that will fill in some of her more of her pronouncements. gaps. On the other hand, choosing to help — Heard Enough her fill in some of those gaps may be the Frankly, the fervor that often accom- incentive you need to spend a little more panies any newfound passion — from a time learning, yourself. Marketplace Dear Wendy: My husband and I adopted a baby boy at 6 months who is now 4 years old. I would dearly love to adopt another, but my husband is against it. He cites our "ages" — he is 39 and I am 40, the expense (we could still afford it) and the uncertainty of how the baby would turn out"; (1 have a masters degree and 10 years of teaching experience in both special and gifted education). I feel my husband is basing his decision on fear rather than love. " — go wrong. Toss aside your talking points and let your emotions lead. You want another child and this is your life. Does your hus- band want you to look back and have regrets? Does he want to be the one responsible for those regrets? Ask him if he can imagine your lives without the sor you already have and then paint a por- trait of your new family, double the love, double the joy. (Why use logic when good-old fashioned guilt can so easily wir out?) Good luck. God is on your side. ❑ Quandary You will not win this battle with logic and intellect. Everything about raising children is counterintuitive. Your hus- band ,ounds like a wise man. 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