Ask Wendy

Sense Of Security In Israel
Is A Family Affair

I don't know your broth-
er or whether or not he and
his wife are grudge-bearers.
But if they are, and not even
one representative of your
family attends, I predict that
the memory of the recent
street fighting might fade
faster than the memory of
WENDY
your absence. If you don't
BELZBERG
want to take your wife and
children, at least you can go
Special to
(get your affairs in order
the Jewish News
before you leave).
Still, this is one of those rare
— Should We Go?
occasions where my opinion doesn't
I don't envy you the task of telling
matter. You are responsible for taking
your brother that you don't feel com-
care of your family, and the only peo-
fortable risking your children's lives
ple who have a vote about whether
for a week, when his children's lives
you attend are you and your wife.
are at risk every day of the year.

Dear Wendy:
My brother and his fami-
ly live in Israel. His 12-
year-old daughter is having
a bat mitzvah in March and
we, of course, said we
would attend. Given the
current political situation
there, however, I no longer
feel comfortable taking my
wife and three children to
Israel. Do we have to go
and, if not, how do I break
the news?

Dear Wendy:
How is that my wife and I are
both Jewish, but I feel like we were
born into different religions? We
managed to reach a compromise
about which temple to attend, but we
are now arguing over the children. I
want to send them to Hebrew school
at a,Reform temple and she wants
them to go to an Orthodox Hebrew
school and have their bar mitzvahs in
an Orthodox shut

make an intelligent decision about
what Judaism means to them.
Without getting in the middle of
your debate, it is easier to discard
information that you already have
than it is to play catch-up later.
Err on the side of Orthodoxy, and
let your children sort the shades of
Judaism out for themselves. Retreat to
your corner and rest up. There will be
many more things to go to the mat
over in the future.

— More Tradition Or Less?
You know the adage "less is more?"
Well, in this case, more is more.
The time to teach your children
Hebrew is when they are young and
have a greater facility for learning
new languages. Also, the better edu-
cated they are, the better equipped to

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