Ask Wendy

Is Single Parenthood Wrong?

with scandal as the general
Dear Wendy:
population: domestic vio-
I am a 42-year-old single
lence, white-collar crime,
woman who is financially
sexual
abuse and divorce no
secure. I always thought I
longer
raise eyebrows. I con-
would get married and have
sider
single
parenthood, by
children at some point. In
comparison,
tame. Your
the past couple of years, I've
child
bears
no
stigma
come to the realization that
according
to
Jewish
law; you
I may not find Mr. Right in
WENDY
will
be
welcome
in
many
time to have children. I
BELZBERG
Jewish communities, no
have considered adoption
Sp ecial to
judgments made.
but feel strongly about hav-
the Jewish News
The only difference
ing the full pregnancy expe-
between
a divorced mother
rience. I have begun
by
choice
and
a
single
mother by
researching artificial insemination.
choice
is
alimony
and
child
support.
Do I risk becoming an outcast in the
Many
children
live
with
single
par-
Jewish community?
ents.
Is
it
ideal?
No.
Is
a
two-parent
— Wants To Be A Mom
family preferable? Yes. But at least
Jewish communities are as familiar

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your child will not be caught in the
crossfire of an ugly divorce.
Childbirth and parenting are expe-
riences not to be missed in life. I
applaud your courage.

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Dear Wendy:
My ex-husband is getting remar-
ried in a few weeks and he has asked
our grown son to stand up for him
at the wedding. I am extremely upset
about this. I think he should have
spoken to me before speaking to our
son.

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He is your ex-husband, but he is
not your son's ex-father. Whatever

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goes on between your son and his
father is no longer any of your busi-
ness. The whole point of being
divorced is that he never has to
speak to you again.
I don't know what part, if any,
your wish to control your husband's
actions and behavior may have
played in the dissolution of your
marriage. But I warn you, back off
if you don't want to end up in the
same situation with your son.

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