Ask Wendy A Daughter Deserves Same Respect As A Son ing a Jewish home will fall to your daughter. (Your son could intermarry and decide not to raise his children as Jews.) But even if this were not the case, it is time that Jewish daughters be treated the same as Jewish sons. We live in the 21st century; in WENDY case your family hasn't heard, BELZBERG it is no longer acceptable to treat girls as second-class citi- Special to — Matter Of Respect? zens. There are three months the Jewish News Stand up to your family before the baby is born. This and demand the respect your gives you ample opportunity daughter deserves. Be vigilant: This is to express your outrage and disappoint- only the first of many times you will ment to your family, and them ample have to advocate on her behalf.1ewish opportunity to book their flights. families do not have a monopoly on The little insignificant matter of giv- double standards. ing birth to Jewish children and creat- Dear Wendy: My entire family flew in two years ago for the brit of our son. I am six months' pregnant with our second child, a daughter. My parents and siblings already have informed me that they don't plan to come in for the nam- ing. I say that stinks. What do you say? Dear Wendy: My husband does not want me to nurse our baby in public. We have two other children and if I don't nurse in public, I will be home all day with my baby and my other two children would get short shrift. Is there some kind of compromise to be found? — To Nurse Or Not Is your husband's concern one of eti- quette or of personal property? Succinctly put, are they your breasts or his private possessions? If you were still nursing after your child's teeth had come in and he was old enough to ask for the breast by name, your husband might have a point. The same holds if you are attending a black-tie dinner at the White House, a fund-raiser, a school Daniel D. Sherbert, M.D., F.A.C.S Eldercare Horne Care Grou I WEST MAPLE PLASTIC SURGERY Providing quality care for over 10 years. 5807 W. -maple Rd., Suite Phone: (248) 865-6400 177, West Bloomfield Fax: (248) 865-6404 Write to "Ask Wendy" at 954 Lexington Ave. #189, New York, NY 10021, or e-mail asliwericly@tliejewishnews.com (§honna Feldman-Nelson, MSW, ACSW, Psychotherapist Specializing in: Couples, Eating Disorders, EMDR, Adult Incest Survivors & Chemical Dependency • Breast • Face • Tummy Tucks • Liposuction • Lip Augmentation • Laser Surgery for Facial Wrinkles • Reconstniction Breast Surgery • Available 24 Hours • Reliable • Personal Care • Bonded/Insured • Hourly or live-in care Serving Wayne, Oakland and Macomb Co. 800-571-2273 interview or dinner with your hus- band's boss. Otherwise, nursing an infant in public is perfectly acceptable. There are ways to discreetly cover yourself with a blanket, cloth diaper or sweater. Demonstrate these "positions" for your husband and reassure him that you do not flaunt, or even expose, your breasts in public while nursing. Sorry to have to be the one to inform you that you are married to someone who has not kept up with the times. (I wonder if the above family would endorse nursing a son in public but not a daughter?) ❑ \ 31000 Telegraph Rd, Suite 150 Bingham Farms, MI 48025 . 2 . 48-723-4114 217 Knowles, Suite 200 Royal Oak, Ml 4806 7 ) 248-542-9076 ,,.. . , \ \ . \\ \\\\ . 's ":e \ A ‘„a .•'\*&%, ...... . , , , ..,,, ,, , , 3.41",VaTXigle.,AMO),V, I.Z.P•PfrA'P'Pe45EarRE,,, i, :.„ , ag,,,....le:: ., 4:40Afi.,,,k,:- ,; - :•.'.:.., :':-• ;,.:'.,:,f ".:1,..., ,..m"7.''...me., ' :t.slorie 0E,',.;:< 4.4.0;.., L LAUREL A. SILLS. Psy. D. LOSE WEIGHT — GET FIT! Free session with mention of this ad. Fully Licensed Clinical Psychologist BARI BECKETT Individuals • Couples Self Esteem • Sexuality • Panic • Chronic Pain • E.IvI.D.R. Featured on TV and in National Magazines Short Term Therapy with Long Term Results 248 - 788 - 4230 Day or Evening Hours Certified Personal Trainer Intentional Health Inc. (248) 681-1397 www.intentionalhealth.com Maria I. Curtis, R.N., CDT. Skin Care Consultant CERTIFIED IN PERMANENT MAKE - UP APPLICATION Speciaiizing In: • Stretch Marks • Microdermabrasion • Acne Scars & Other Scars • Dark Spots • Fine Lines & Wrinkles 'California Power Peel A skin rejuvenation treatment for you. Call for a FREE consultation now! 248.361.7978 E-Mail: mariaisabel99@aol.com , DeVinney Czarnecki Physical Therapy, P.C. I Specializing in Manual Therapy and Exercise Loren DeVinney, P.T., O.M.P.T. john Czarnecki, RT., O.M.P.T. 5839 W. Maple Rd., Suite 100, West Bloomfield 48322 (248) 851.6999 I A. SIMONA SEIDERMAN, ACSW, DCSW CHILDREN ADOLESCENTS ADULTS SENIOR ADULTS Anxiety - Depression - Grief - Relationships - Stress i\ b ridge to 0 healthier y oli (248) 400 3324 - SASeiderman@aol.com Amanda L. Gurwin, M.S., CCUSLP Speech Pathologist Home Care for Children 248.865.9039 agurwinSLP@yahoo.com Hi l () 2000 135