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Shelving Hatred

The ADL and Barnes 6' Noble launch
national campaign, "Close the Book on Hate."

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hen the Anti-
Defamation League
wanted to honor
Leonard Riggio, the
chief executive officer of Barnes &
Noble Booksellers protested, "I haven't
done anything." ADL then suggested
they honor the head of the
nation's largest bookstore
chain for what he can do.
Last week, the ADL and
544 Barnes & Noble stores
nationwide kicked-off their
"Close the Book on Hate"
campaign, designed to break
the cycle of prejudice and
hate through reading. The
project focuses on fighting
anti-Semitism, racism and
homophobia.
Every Barnes & Noble store in
Michigan and around the country will
host in-store educational programs
and events with community leaders
and local schools. A table in every
store will be dedicated to works of fic-
tion and non-fiction that emphasize
the value of diversity for children and
adults [see Page 21 box]. A free pam-
phlet on 101 ways to combat preju-
dice also will be available in the stores.
"The big message is, we can't ignore
things. We have to react to prejudice,"
says the ADL's Deena Lockman. She is
Michigan project co-chair with Jason
Massman.
A centerpiece of the campaign is the
book Hate Hurts, How Children Learn

and Unlearn Prejudice published by
Scholastic Inc. with the ADL. By
offering practical advice and moving
stories, the book gives ways for care-
givers to comfort young victims of
hate as well as to assist those who per-
petrate it.
The introduction written by the
book's authors, Caryl Stern-LaRosa
and Ellen Hofheimer Bettmann,
notes: "Prejudice is conta-
gious. When people are afraid
or have actually been hurt, it
may be a natural response to
want to hurt back. But hurt-
ing one another only escalates
the hatred and violence —
and the differences don't go
away..."
The spotlight of the cam-
paign in the metro area is
Civic Leaders Night, a panel
discussion at Michigan's largest B&N
store, in Rochester Hills. Dr. Evelyn
Crane, co-chair of the Michigan
Alliance Against Hate Crimes (MI-
AAHC), will moderate a discussion
with panelists Donald Cohen, director,
Anti-Defamation League Michigan
Region; Sean Kosofsky, director of poli-
cy and victim services, Triangle
Foundation; Daniel Krichbaum, execu-
tive director, National Conference for
Community and Justice; and State Rep.
Nancy Quarles (D-Southfield), presi-
dent, Southern Oakland County
NAACP. The panelists will discuss prej-
udice and bias as they pertain to the
local community and the United States
at large, along with what their organiza-
tions are doing about the problems.

How To Respond
To JOKES and SLIMS

None of us have the right to dictate someone else's humor. But we do have
the right to request that this type of humor not be used in our presence.
• Listen for: Jokes and slurs regarding race, ethnicity, sexual orientation,
religion, sex and class.
• What to say in a group: "Pardon me. Maybe you didn't mean to offend
anyone, but I am hurt by your remarks." Or, "I don't understand the
point you are making. Please explain this to me."
What
to say in private: "I value our relationship. I don't think you meant
•
to hurt anyone, but I was offended by your remark." Or, "People see you
as a leader and your behavior sends a wrong message."
• Remember: Create light, not fire. Avoid angry remarks. Most people
make offensive remarks through ignorance.

