Cover Story

`Israel At Risk"

with Guest Speaker

Aaron Rosenbaum

1:00 pm, Sunday,
September 10, 2000
At Temple Emanu-El

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14450 W. Ten Mile Rd., Oak Park

Visitation

Israel now faces subtle and unfamiliar risks. We need an
unusually well qualified analyst to help us understand
Israel's novel, complex security problems. As a service to
the community, Temple Emanu-El brings back Aaron
Rosenbaum, nationally known political analyst and former
research director of AIPAC. He will put us at the forefront
of serious thinking today about Israel's current perils.

e often find it disconcerting to visit an ill friend
or relative. Many of us feel uneasy around illness
and unsure of what we should be doing. Rabbi
E.B. "Bunny" Freedman, director of the Southfield-based
Jewish Hospice and Chaplaincy Network, has visited thou-
sands of patients. Here are some of his tips on maximizing
the effects of such visits:

No charge. Please call 967-4252, ext. 604
and let us know you are coming.

A Service to the Community by
Temple Emanu-EL and EMES (its senior group)

• Try to be helpful without being intrusive.
• Keep the visit short, especially if the patient is weak and recovering
from surgery, childbirth, etc.
• Call ahead to let him/her know you are planning to visit and when
• Offer to be of service in areas unrelated to the patient's physical
well-being (running errands, for example).
• Appreciate the fact you are there on the patient's terms and give
advice only when asked (don't impose your religious/medical
opinions or experiences on the person)
* Try to emphasize the positive by focusing on what is good about the
situation (loving family, the quality of medical care, pain control).
• Act upbeat and encouraging without minimizing the person's illness.
• Knock before entering the patient's room to ensure that he/she is
dressed presentably.
• Step out of the room if caregivers need to attend to the patient.

Pick one up at no charge
at our offices or
call 248-354-7123 ext. 270
for a list of other locations.

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• Focus on the patient's disabilities or stare at his/her infirmities.
• Be afraid of silence, especially if you detect that the patient is not
interested in making conversation.
• Stand over the patient, as that will make him/her uncomfortable;
find a seat but not on the patient's bed.
• Become a "do-gooder" and force the patient to accept assistance
from you that he/she does not want.
• Impose your own religious standards on the patient (telling him/her
to pray, insisting that he/he attend services at a synagogue).
• Ignore the patient's roommate. Acknowledge the person's presence
and extend good wishes.
• Forget to acknowledge the nurses and medical staff and thank
them for their dedicated services to the patient.

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In short, try to think of what you would like or dislike if you

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