11 years. I couldn't be happier. I have a great partner. We support each other and have fun together. It's a perfect match. I will give the advice now that was given to me — "Never marry an actress.'' JN: When you look back on all the women you've known, do you think you would have led that kind of life if AIDS had been in the picture? EF: No, I wouldn't have, but I tell you I did not sleep around with any woman who came along, any woman that I pursued or pursued me. If you chalk that up against any other per- son who was a star and had what I had — charisma, a fine singing voice, money, fame and, believe it or not, at one time I was adorable — I think I was discreet. It definitely would have been a different life with the problems of today. JN: What are you doing now to maintain a drug-free life? EF: I live a healthy life. I try to eat a very bland diet, but when I go on the road — I was just in Philadelphia, New York and New Jersey — my diet goes out the win- dow. I don't drink coffee or anything with caffeine. I take water aerobics exercise, and I try to keep up with my wife, who is too fast for me. She's my age but younger than anybody I've ever known. She loves to work, gets up early and goes to bed late. She has more energy than I tried to get from the drugs I had taken. I love to make her happy because she makes me very happy. JN: What's been the role of Judaism in your life? EF: I'm very proud that I'm a Jew. I couldn't be anything else. Everything in my singing and in my thinking is Jewish. I'm not a very religious man, but I'm a very Jewish man. Debbie said she was going to raise our chil- dren Jewish, but before I left for Europe with Elizabeth, [I] went to see [Debbie] and the children, and she said she wasn't going to raise [Carrie and Todd] as Jews because she didn't love me anymore. After she married Harry Karl, who was Jewish, he told me he contributed to the Methodist Church that [Debbie, Carrie and Todd] went to, because [the Methodists] never said a bad word about Jews. I think it was a horrible thing to say. JN: How are most of your days spent now? EF: Betty loves to go to the opera and the symphony, and I go with her although not as much as she wants. I'm an old movie fan, and I made her almost as bad a buff as I am. We have great big screens in our house [in San Francisco], and we enjoy watching [movies] at home. Sometimes, like kids, we go out to two or three movies in a day. JN: Is there one song you've sung that's expressed who you are more than any of the other songs? EF: The song that expresses a great deal for a lot of people — it had great mean- ing for me when I heard it — is "Oh! My Papa." People of all ages relate to it, and I hear that wherever I go now. JN: Do you have any ties to Michigan? EF: Detroit was one of the major cities that bought my records. I used to appear with all of the DJs all over Detroit, and I worked at a theater in Flint. I had a terrific relationship with Jack the Bellboy, Ed McKenzie. I used to appear on his show for hours at a time. That was at the beginning of my recording career, when I also used to go to the race- track in Detroit all the time. JN: Are you close to your brothers and sisters? EF: We were seven kids. My father died in '72, and my mother died five years ago at the age of 90. My moth- er had such a hard life with us kids, and my father didn't make it easy for her. She was mentally abused. I never saw any physical abuse, but my sis- ters and brothers told me that did occur. I got all the breaks, and he never got a break. He worked very, very hard. I retired him in his early 50s. The only ones left in my family are my kid sister in Philadelphia and my brother in Baltimore. We are in contact. I'm the only one in my fam- ily who hasn't gotten diabetes, but I'm waiting for it. JN: Do you think you would have been better off emotionally if you had not had all the fame at such a young age? EF: I enjoyed my fame and success at an early age. I thoroughly enjoyed being in the spotlight and the lime- light. I'm a total ham. Before an audi- ence, something turns on inside me. I was born a performer, and even though I was once very, very shy, my biggest thrill is being before an audi- ence. I challenged that with romance, and I tried to combine the two. It worked, but then it didn't work. JN: Have your feelings changed since you wrote the book? EF: My regrets are real, and I'm sure I didn't mention all of them. I made big, big mistakes. If it could have hap- pened, I would have lived differently and made some drastic changes. JN: What do you want people to think of you? EF: I've tried to be a good person. I've not been successful all the time, but that's always been my goal. I've tried to be nice and friendly, but I guess I went against that when I wrote the book. 0 Eddie Fisher will appear at 8 p.m. Saturday, Nov. 13, at the D. Dan and Betty Kahn Building of the Jewish Community Center in West Bloomfield. The program is co-sponsored by the Marvin and Betty Danto Family Health Care Center. (248) 661-1000. wit Eddie Fisher: "I'bu're nu t supposed to applaud iv' the. temple, bztt when I sanu, co11gregatio11 applauded. Fisher ivith first wile De Rtynolds. "The truth is that our life together a sham for the media. 10/29 1999 Detroit Jewish News t. 83