Columbine Wil Happen Again! Following are excerpts from an arti- cle by Dr. Reuven Bar-Levav that appears on his Web site, wvvw.beabetterparent.com . DR. REUVEN BAR-LEVAV Special to the Jewish News N . ow that the Littleton tragedy has been plumbed to its depth and exploited by the media ad nauseam to satisfy the voyeuristic appetite of the viewing public, pundits, bureaucrats and other so-called "experts" generally end up with the same conclusion: we need more and better gun con- trol. We bemoan our "culture of violence" and naively hope to con- trol or reverse it by enacting stricter laws. Why do we come up with this recommendation again and again at times such as this? Because we ourselves feel anxious, impotent and powerless as we face such hor- rors. it is very hard to admit that no panacea or easy solutions exist. Pushing to do something lessens our anxiety, even if it accomplishes nothing.... The teenage killers at Columbine High School broke existing laws to obtain the weapons they used illegally, and in the future determined "sickles" will also find whatever they seek, no matter what laws exist on the books. Tight controls that seal all possible leaks are impossible in our free society. Since guns and drugs exist, some people will abuse them- selves and others with them, though it's illegal to do so. Car accidents will always happen, even after we develop much safer cars. We need better answers to lessen such tragedies. What motivates kids and grown-ups to murder innocents is not the presence of guns but the absence of built-in values of right and wrong, one of the breeding grounds of blind hate. This urgent- ly needs to be changed, though no immediate solution is possible. Ours is a permissive society that accepts, and even idealizes, an almost unlimited freedom to do whatever people feel like doing, all in the name of self-realization. Everyone resents restrictions, but we have legitimized any and all forms of behavior in the name of self-expression. The absence of widely accepted norms of ethical behavior is damaging to us all, and especially to the young who are inexperienced in life. We must reestablish sqrne of our old, tradi- tional norms to lessen future hor- rors like this one. Many people in our society become furious and even ugly when anyone dares to question their behavior, as if it was an unjustified invasion of their pri- vacy and an infringement on their human rights. When instant grat- ification is denied, many react as if they have been robbed of their birthright.... Because of our understandable eagerness to separate church and stare, many parents and teachers have also separated themselves from such well-tested biblical rules as the Ten Commandments. Is it then surprising that many kids grow up never learning that "Thou Shalt Not Kill?" And the confusion is increased by repeatedly being exposed to the fantastic tales of James Bond, Die Hard and Terminator, where people are shot and mutilated without dying, and made worse yet by Nintendo games that give points for extra cruelty It is difficult to accept that trag- ic events such as the one in Colorado are impossible to avoid altogether in complex, modern societies such as ours. This will happen again. But they can be minimized. This will not happen by preaching gun control but by enrolling ourselves individually and as a society in the ongoing task of lessening our excessive permissive- ness. 11 STOREWIDE LEATHER SALE 20% - 40% Off All Original Prices Sale starts June 18th thru June 20th bQIJNO QICCI 6omeNet south • 18t Level (248) 649-4433 *All previous sales excluded TRANSFER YOUR HOME MOVIES 8mm - 16mm TO VHS CENTURSJ CAMERA r 1- Film Length In Feet 8mm & Super 8 & 16 1-200 Feet 201-400 Feet 401-600 Feet 601-800 Feet 801-1000 Feet FREE BACKGROUND MUSIC $20.00 $26.00 $39.00 $52.00 $65.00 On Any Video Transfer Century Camera 288-5444 Film Over 1,000 Feet Add 6c! A Foot (Video Tape $8.00 Additional) With This Coupon. Expires 7/18/99 30533 N. WOODWARD ROYAL OAK Summer Special MasterCattl (3 Blocks South of 13 Mile) 248-288-5444 Daily & Saturday 10-6 Friday 10-8 / Stock Up On Your Camp from ... ry lk The goudwa West Bloomfield (24) 'O55-224-0 e-mail: greetfrom@aol.com Huge Selection Website: www.greetingsfrom.invitations.com 6/1S 1999 Detroit Jewish News 15