0 0 .4 Ww,M t .w. sk•v,,k- a-•11t ANNABEL COHEN Special to The Jewish News I have vivid memories of my mother's parties of the late ' 1960s. I call it "post traumat- ic morn's parry syndrome.'' - The parties, of course, were per- fect. The house, spotless. The food, prepared, in extravagant amounts, was always well ahead of schedule. The tables, like a Hollywood set, were arranged three days ahead. Dad was sent on bogus errands, just so he'd be out of mom's hair those last precious moments before guests arrived. And, just before show time, we three girls were scrubbed, hair still wet, and dressed in our best PJs so that we would be paraded in front of the guests before being exiled to our parents' room to watch prime- time TV. Mom, of course, was possessed whenever she gave a party and, sometimes, downright mean. We always wondered why she even was having a parry, since it was obvious- ly no fun for her at all. Now that I'm all grown up, I understand. Entertaining can be very nerve-racking. Intellectually we know that the people coming are our friends — they're just glad to be invited. Emotionally, we feel the pressure to perform. It's what West Bloomfield parry planner Andrea Solomon calls stage fright. "People are worried about whether the party will be successful or fun," said Solomon. Janice Cherkansky and partner Marcy Tucker-Colman, owners of Gourmet Parties in Franklin, sug- I Invitations for a formal party at home are a must, says Andrea Solomon. Inset: A unique way to use a placecard. 4i.'74-iPramffletANNUIL,..:AfigNENSISMSIONSUR&OintMe 'z , , E MINEMEMS&WAL.- How to enjoy being a host at your own affair. 4/9 1999 C40 Detroit Jewish News