/ Pa SSovEr All In The Family Elizabeth Applebaum AppleTree Editor F or Sydney Weinstein and Ira Auslander, it just wouldn't be Pesach without the av\r-ul food and the less-than-melodious singing of Henry Auslander. "He can't carry a tune," Sydney Weinstein says of his uncle Henry, the longtime leader of the Auslander family seder. "And we love it that way. "But if you put that in the story, be sure to say Ira said it." More than 40 years ago Henry Auslander, along with his sisters Rose Plotnik (Sydney's mother) and Freida Bizer, began a tradition. The Take It From Us... Ira and Sydney Auslander offer a few tips for a great family seder: Looking forward to their family seder are, from left to right, back row: Michael Weinstein, Ira Auslander - and Marvin VVeinstein: front row: Sydney and Judith Weinstein. The.Auslander seder brings tocether more than 150 cousins and siblings, great-Grandparents and Grandchildren, parents and aunts and unc es who cone from as far as Texas anc \ew York. So why c o they on y Canacian get . Involve the children instead of simply expecting them to sit still. "In our family, the adults have always tried to make it fun and interesting for the kids,' Ira Auslander says. "And be patient with them," he says, adding that Auslander family seders where few young children were present "weren't as much fun. Another generation makes it more excit- ing. , 2. Photocopy and distribute material. In addition to reading from the Union Haggadah, the Auslander clan has favorite family readings and songs, such as a snappy number "that has something about sitting on the afikornen," Ira says. Be sure to have a copy of any special materi- al for every guest. 3. Have fun getting spiFy for the big event. Sydney describes himself as being a casual dresser, but not on this night. "The men all wear suits and the women wear nice clothing," he says. "Everybody looks forward to getting dressed up." 4. Make it clear that everyone in the family is invited. Although tradi- tionally the Auslander seder has beer an event for first cousins (chil- dren of the founding three siblings) and their offspring, this year's event also will include the second cousins. "Everyone has always known that if he wants, he can come," says Sydney. 5. Involve all the children in finding the afikomen. At the Auslander seder, every child goes in search and whoever finds it must share a bit of the afikomen with the others. The prize? "A bag of candy and a gold coin that isn't really gold," Ira says. "Until five years ago —envy gave out silver dollars, but now ifs a Canadian coin ..." Canadian? Ira chuckles sheepishly. "Well, maybe we should start saying, 'Next year in Toronto."' for fincing t ne cfko en? 3/26 1999 Detroit Jewish News 73