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I Love You,
Go Away
I
try not to complain too often,
but every now and then I just
can't help myself.
You already know I don't like
spanking or speaking harshly to
children. You know I don't agree
with parents who .
refuse to let their
children climb in
bed with them, and
with those who insist
a mother should stop
1 nursing when her
baby is six months
(or younger).
My concern this
time is not a specific
approach to child
care, but rather an
attitude. In recent years, I have
: noted that an increasing number
1 of parents simply don't want to
spend time with their children. It's
an odd phenomenon: Couples
have babies, willingly, gladly,
then do everything they can to
avoid them.
Let's see: put the children in
1 school all day, then in latchkey,
then when they come home have
a nanny take care of them. In the
evening, leave the children with a
baby sitter. When the summer
comes along, send the boys and
girls off to as many camps as pos-
sible, then to their friends' homes
on the weekends. At all costs,
make certain you, the parent, are
never alone with the child for too
1 long a time.
Before I continue, a disclaimer:
This is not about parents who must
work full time to survive. On the
contrary
these men and
women often are those who most
yearn to be with their children.
No, I'm talking about typical
parents with enough money, and
often with more than enough.
I'm not sure what it is these peo-
ple are so busy doing that they
can't be with their children. Shop-
ping? Taking vaca-
tions? Cleaning?
Nor am I certain
why they had chil-
dren if they don't
want to be with
them.
Raising children
is a demanding job,
without a doubt, and
parents not only
deserve daily
breaks, they are
obligated to take
them if they are to remain sane.
But when couples decide to get
pregnant, they make a commit-
ment: From now on, our child(ren)
comes first. And what's best for a
young child — unless his parents
are unforgivably terrible — is
being with his mother and father.
Yes, a boy should go to school —
and camp if he wants. Yes, a girl
can and should spend time with
friends. Yes, mom and dad can
take time off and leave the little
ones with a baby sitter. But when
I hear that a child of 4, 8 or 10
spends almost 90 percent of his
day away from his parents (who
are happy about it!) I can't help
but believe something in the home
is very, very wrong.
❑
Elizabeth Applebaum
AppleTree Editor