But young adults need to be care-
ful not to fall into the "Party of Five"
syndrome.
"Sometimes young adults will take
on the role of the parent that passed
away. Young women may step into
their mother's shoes, do the holidays,
carry on the traditions, not mourn
the loss, but take her place. That's not
necessarily unhealthy, but people
need to grieve and mourn before
dealing with the business," she says.
It has been "therapeutic" for
Howard Rosner to talk about his
father's 1997 death. "If you hide
from it and push the emotions down,
it's just going to do more harm down
the road," he says. "You might have
sad emotions and be upset about it,
but you need to come to grips with
those. That's what allows you to get
on and feel better about it."
His mother always told him,
"'there's no shame in crying, don't feel

"If you push the
emotions down,
it's going to do
more harm down
the road."

like you need to be strong, get it out
now.' I have good days and bad days,
and I probably will for a long time,
but it helps to dwell on the good
memories more than the bad memo-
ries.
It's the little things. Like during
the Stanley Cup playoffs last year,
Howard remembered how his father
— an avid hockey player and "great

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LISA LONDON

Special to The Jewish News

L

ooking to get started in the
stock market? How about
starting with a Great Amer-
ican Company.
Salomon Smith Barney continues
to believe that the larger-capitaliza-
tion growth stocks should retain
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goaltender" — "used to go crazy
when Mike Vernon was in the goal
because he didn't like the way he
positioned himself. During the play-
offs when Vernon would make a
ridiculous save, [I thought], 'alright,
he's up there positioning him.'"
Jon has worked through part of his
grief by talking with friends and fam-
ily, and also by writing. "Everyone
was very open about my mom's
death," he says. "My mom talked to
all of us. She said, love every
moment you have in this world
because I'm not going to live to be an
old lady.'
"You have to be able to find people
that you can really talk to. Family,
rabbi, support groups," says Jon. "It's
so overwhelming, just talk. A lot of
times I'll write down all my thoughts
in a journal."
If you don't feel comfortable
talking with a "friend or relative, try

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Disney (Walt) Co. (DIS)
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Marriott International (MAR)
Merck (MRK)
Electronic Data Systems (EDS)
McDonald's Corp. (MCD)
Proctor & Gamble (PG)
Past performance is not a guarante
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Saturday, May 9

This information is not necessa
the perspective of e Jewish News.

Friday, May 16

Lisa M. bandon, CFP, is vice prest-
dent-investments at Smith Barney in
Southfield.

a professional therapist, says Stacey.
You can never really say goodbye
to a parent, and Jon never will.
Just the other day, he found four
rolls of undeveloped film. Having
no idea when they were taken, he
took the film to Arbor. "One was
of my mom, about to go to a wed-
ding, all decked out. She looked
really good that day," he says. "All
of a sudden it kind of hits you, you
start crying.
"I was so close with my mom —
I must have talked to [her] 10
times a day; she used to call us at
work every day. I hate everything
about it, but there's nothing I can
do, I have no control over any-
thing, I just have to go through my
life, know what she taught me,
know that she's always with me,"
he says. 0

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