At Designs Unlimited, Quality Is Our Custom. POLISHER'S NOTEBOOK MONICA from page 31 *"4 0;ye,-,<,-- •4 t: • - The Fate Of 'A Little Maidel' "."4 INS11610144016if Bill Ginsburg reluctantly maps Monica strategy against a friend of o the Jews.' ERIC J. GREENBERG STAFF Want W hen Bill Ginsburg was changing the diapers of his good friend's baby girl Monica 23 years ago, he never dreamed that they might someday hold the fate of the world in their hands. But that appears to be the case, hyperbole aside, as the 55-year-old attorney Ginsburg' this week negoti- ated for full immunity for that same baby girl — Monica Lewinsky, now 24 — in return for her testimony to special prosecutor Kenneth Starr about her true relationship with President Bill Clinton. Some experts believe that Lewinsky could bring down the president depending on what she reveals about what she and Clinton did behind closed doors. Despite the enormous gravity of the matter, Ginsburg seemed tired k Continued on page 23 ALSO INSIDE: Clinton, Monica and Jewish law/ The Arab press has a field day. Showroom Hours: Monday-Friday 11-5 • Saturday 11-3 • or by appointment 3160 Haggerty Rd. • West Bloomfield • 48323 • 248-624-7300 ATTITUDES• • • for the Mind Specializing in heart warming gifts, relaxation and self-improvement aids. Motivational Tapes Fibre Optic Displays Massage Products Insprirational Gifts Recovery Items Stained Glass Music Jewelry Candles Crystal Prisms Lava Lamps Much, much more Aromatherapy I-1 OU R S Prints and Posters • 2/20 1998 34 Mon. - Fri. 10:00-7:00 Sat. 12:00 - 6:00 7421 Orchard Lake Road • NE Corner at 14 Mile Rd. (248) 539-2200 • Attitudes @ Feelings. corn refugee. Her parents are divorced. They attend a Conservative syna- gogue whose name could be Shaarey Zedek or Adat Shalom. The family rabbi's name is David Wolpe. It could be Irwin Groner or Efry Spec- tre. Monica Lewinsky, like our child or that of our next-door neighbor, was encouraged to succeed, to go as far and as high as she could. Around the dinner table, she probably learned that it wasn't only what you know, but who you know that counts. This focus on achievement and accumulation of influence and power, however, is where Monica and our children may not be learning all the lessons about life. Marlene Adler Marks, senior columnist for the Los Angeles Jewish Journal and author of Nice Jewish Girls: Growing Up In America, makes this insightful assessment in a Los Angeles Jewish Journal column enti- tled "The Daughter:" " too want this scandal to end. In fact, I am prepared to argue that Bill Clinton's sex life, even with a Jewish woman, is his own business. But I'd also maintain that character and lack of judgment of that Jewish woman is our business. "This character and judgment was at least partially shaped in a Jewish home. Jewish women tell me they feel enraged, threatened, isolated and shamed by the events ... But Jewish women also understand the dynam- ics of their families, the way Jewish history and personal identity come together through our children. "'This isn't just Monica; this is my daughter, too,' said a woman whose own child is Monica's age. I know what she means: In order to make their way in the American world, we train our girls to worship power, to r get their success vicariously, to vamp for Daddy, and if not for him, then for the powerful men who will take away Daddy's discomfort and pain ... "I feel a kinship with Lewinsky, not in her strengths but in her weak- nesses. She is every mother's night- mare and every single Jewish moth- er's tragic foreboding. Bill Clinton said he had an 'emotional' relation- ship with this child of a broken home. To which this Jewish mother says: God help us all." As stories about Monica Lewinsky and Bill Clinton continue to fill the air waves and news columns of secu- lar and Jewish publications, we must look beyond bizarre or titillating details and focus on the lessons we can teach our own children about power, influence and their excesses. Afterall, tomorrow's Monica Lewin- sky may be your child. ❑ LETTERS PLANS from page 32 would be a welcome addition. Will relocating the health club bring in new members or just be a step sideways? Before eliminating the courts, consider the number of mem- bers that belong just because of the courts. We are the loyal few that have stuck it out. Don't drive us away. Courts have multiple uses. Help our membership grow by good manage- ment and well-thought-out changes. Let us all take a step forward on the way to a running start in the millenni- um. The JCC needs us if it is to grow and prosper. Lloyd I. Snider and 61 other JCC squash and racquetball players West Bloomfield