COMMUNITY VIEWS =Arabs And Jews, Can They Be Friends? and his family. This gentleman, now or the past 16 years, I have a friend, is among many with whom been a member of an orga- I have shared conversation, commu- nization called the nity projects and social situations. American Arabic and Recently, my husband and I trav- Jewish Friends. This group is unique eled to Turkey. While not an Arab in the United States. It is one which country, Turkey is a religious Muslim not only has survived over time but country. The Turkish military and has been in existence longer than any most of the Turks we met were other similar group. deeply concerned that the country Over these years, I have learned a remain secular in spite of its peoples' lot about myslelf and about my deep religious beliefs. American Arabic neighbors. I have We had the good fortune to attend learned that all Arabs are not terror- a bar mitzvah in Istanbul at Neve ists (and we know from Oklahoma Shalom Synagogue, which was the City that not all terrorists are Arabs). location of a terrorist bombing in the I know that Arab Americans, 1980s. The synagogue's like Jews, are concerned clock is stopped at the time about protection of minority that the deadly bomb rights, immigration issues exploded on the-Shabbat /- and prejudice reduction. morning. They too worry about crime, Jews have lived in Turkey the Red Wings, the strength since the 4th century BCE, /- of the public schools; and making the Jewish commu- they too agonize about ter- nity there one of the oldest rorism in the Middle East in the world. There are which adversely affects the JEANNIE 25,000 Jews living in \_ peace process. WEINER Turkey now, the majority I have come to know Arab Special to The in Istanbul, which has 17 Christians and Muslims — Jewish News synagogues. Americans whose families The bar mitzvah we wit- came from Syria, Egypt, Iraq nessed was full of joy and and Lebanon. Many years ago, after high emotion. The synagogue was /- meeting a local Arab businessman, I packed and the young man, greatly asked him where he was from. He accomplished, gave the sermon in told me he was born in Beit Shean. Hebrew, Ladino and Turkish. The We talked at length about the region Jews in Istanbul state that the Turks Jeannie Weiner is past president of the were horrified about the bombing of Jewish Community Council of Neve Shalom and they enjoy a good Metropolitan Detroit. relationship with the governemnt, EDITORS NOTEBOOK Liberal, Conservative PHIL JACOBS Editor I'm trying to think of what it is I want in the Middle East. Editors of Jewish newspapers are supposed to "know" these things. Yet, I can't or the life of me figure out anymore whether I'm a hawk or a dove or if I'm right-wing or left-wing. Truth is, I don't want to be either. What I do want is peace in the Middle East. I don't want more Jewish kids taking shrapnel on Ben Yehudah Street. No more young Israeli soldiers cut down in Lebanon. I remember watching on television as the late Prime Minister Yitzhak Rabin shook Yassir Arafat's hand. I was admittedly hopeful that this might lead to something. At the same time, though, in the back of my mind I figured that somehow, someway it wouldn't work. I thought this because, quite simply, I don't trust Arafat to hold his end of the deal. I still don't trust him. But sadly, I don't love Bibi either. I saw this man up close and personal when he was a guest at a Bloomfield Hills parlor meeting before Rabin's assassination. On one hand I was thinking, which recognizes the community through its chief rabbinate. As in many cities of Europe, Istanbul's syn- agogues are closely guarded with high levels of security provided by local police. We were personally treated with great respect and friendliness by all we met in Turkey, even in the rural areas where little English was spoken. The beauty of the land, low prices and close proximity to Israel make Turkey as popular vaca- tion spot for Israelis. My expe- rience in Turkey brought to mind that Muslims and Jews can and have lived in peace with each other. My experi- ence with the American Arabic and Jewish Friends has shown me that locally, Jews and Arabs can and do share concerns and friendship. As two significant ethnic groups in the met- ropolitan Detroit area, Arabs and Jews have the opportunity to share more than just the love of hummus and pita bread. We are neighbors here as well as in the Middle East. We know from history that Arabs, whether Muslim or Christian, and non-Arab Muslims can live peacefully with their Jewish neighbors. For the sake of our children, we must face our prejudices and begin to break down stereotypes. Not only can peaceful co-existence bring stability to the communities in which we live, but individually the friendships that can occur enhance one's own life immeasurably. Learning about reli- gious and philosophi- cal differ- ences can break down fear and mis- conceptions. . Detroit has been characterized as an ethni- cally diverse city that is one of the nation's most segregated and provincial. This need not be so. At least we Jews can get to know our own neighbors and colleagues, no matter what their religion or ethnici- ty. Arabs and Jews in Detroit have broken some barriers. We began 16 years ago and continue today, but the effort affects too few — it needs to grow and expand in both communi- ties. As we begin a new year, let us remember that nothing good can exist for long between people who consider themselves to be ene- mies. "What if Rabin is giving away the country? Is it possible that Palestinians and Israelis can work together?" Bibi wants security. I want security. He doesn't have much trust for the Arab leaders. I don't either. Yet what Bibi and his opposite, Mr. Arafat, are doing is partnering the destruction of peace. They are going beyond the thinkable. I don't want Hamas in Israel. I don't want Israeli soldiers burning down houses on the West Bank. It doesn't work. There's too much pain being caused on both sides. At this point, I wish Madeleine Albright could find two new leaders to work with. I think she did right by telling the two current ones that when they were ready to get serious she and the U.S. will return to help. There are so many, many frustrat- ing issues. I don't think at this point that the Arabs are even speaking the same language as the Jews. I don't know if they ever will. But how can the language reach the same point when Israelis and Arabs aren't just policing themselves, they are building a cultural tradition of hatred for one another. Oh sure, there's a program here or there bringing kids together. Here or there. Right now, if it's got to be Arafat, he needs to once and for all control the bombers. He also has to stop play- ing to his audience. He's got a horrific history of telling the Israelis and the United States one thing and then turning around and telling the Palestinians something else. I want the Palestinians to get the money they need to build their infra- structure, to create jobs for their peo- ple and to live in peace. I was against a Palestinian state. Now, I grudgingly \ LIBERAL, CONSERVATIVE on page 27 9/26 1997 25