Exclusive Offer Only from Glassman Aurora Guy's Eye View As you get older, you start to see Dad as a friend. An important one. ast week my father and I sat difficult decisions. Living in an down to talk about how I older house, void of a few modern could improve my business. conveniences, and as an avid After nearly two hours of watcher of The Learning Chan- heart to heart, I walked away nel's home improvement shows, with a two-page list of good ideas. I was suddenly able to offer them But more than that, I walked a couple of tips. From the wooden vs. vinyl win- away with a new respect for my dows debate to the run- dad. ning of four-line Five years ago, I nev- telephone wire instead of er would have asked for two, I answered a few of his opinion. I saw him my father's questions. as the enemy, always The tables had been trying to impose his will. turned, and it felt great Preaching to me about — not because I was studying harder so I helping my dad, but be- could write my own tick- cause I was sharing et. Guilting me into knowledge I had gained, waking up early so I MA RC on my own, with another could help him in the ROSEN BLATT man. yard. These were the Things change. Rela- things that annoyed me, SPECIAL TO THE JEWISH NEWS tionships which are nur- the things that made it tured become stronger, hard to look him in the more defined. But adjusting a re- eye. Now, Fm older. I know better. lationship with a parent is espe- I'm able to see past my own self- cially difficult. My father has always been a ishness and realize what's truly man I've respected — for the way good for me. I've always respected my el- he brought me up, for his work ders, especially my parents. I be- ethic, for his love of my mother, lieve age does bring experience, he's always been a man I could and experience translates into model myself after. But only re- wisdom. And now, with a little cently have I been able to con- experience of my own, I've got a front him, man to man, about these and other subjects. few things to offer. During our conversation about how to make my business stronger, he offered some ideas which he had used years earlier. He spoke of the ways in which he struggled in the beginning and how patience and serious moti- vation paid off in the long run. Two years ago I bought a Then he went on to tell me every- house in Royal Oak. Not know- thing he thought I was doing ing much about the subject, I con- wrong. It used to be that this type of sulted my father, a homeowner for more than 20 years. I asked criticism would annoy me. Not him everything: What do equity, anymore. Maybe it's because I'm escrow and interest rate mean? older now and can accept it. Who pays the commission to the Maybe its because I know he was realtor? What do you do if the right. Or, maybe it's because I was neighbors are nuts? He knew the answers and re- looking at him as more than just sponded to each question as if it my father; I was looking at him were the most important subject as an equal. Yes, he's still my dad, in the world. He was patient and but he's also a man. Someone once told me that no detailed. He made me under- matter your age, once you realize stand. I bought the house, live in it who you are, you're able to see now and have since offered Dad's others for who they are. I'm still advice to many of my friends. young, and I've got a lot to learn. And along the way I've also My father will always be older learned a few things on my own and more knowledgeable than I, but that doesn't mean we can't to pass on. For instance, a year ago, my speak on the same plane. Since that meeting with my fa- parents decided to move. 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