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LOSER
treme example, in a competitive why are they placing an ad? Des- Steve.
Fat, smelly, under- dating world, creativity may be perate and socially inept are
Bad dates and all, he still says
achieving, unemployed the edge you need. Yet, no mat- some of the stereotypical terms it's worth it. "You take a chance
addict/alcoholic ter how witty you pen your pro- tacked on to people using the just like with buying a house.
seeks babe.
file, you have to decide if placing personals.
You'll look at 50 different hous-
a personal ad is for you.
"I do think there is somewhat es with different colors, and
ound interesting? Not
If the personals are the way of a stigma attached to placing eventually you find the one you
your type? OK, so to go, you need to be in the right a personal ad, whether it is true want."
maybe this individual frame of mind — knowing it is or not," says Steve (last name
Danny Cohen, 34, a chiro-
doesn't impress you. time-consuming to return phone has been withheld to ensure pri- practor at First Chiropractic in
But admit it — you read the ad. calls and schedule coffee dates. vacy). Steve, 35, recently placed Southfield, is celebrating his
It got your attention.
a personal ad in The Jewish one-year wedding anniversary
JULIE WEINGARDEN
A tad different from the typ-
this summer. He met his wife,
News (DJN).
SPECIAL TO THE JEWISH NEWS
ical "good-looking professional Goobers And
"It's an avenue for me to try Nancy, 29, through a personal
seeks soul mate" blurbs common Losers?
to meet new people," he says. "I ad, right before New Year's in
Unless you are a big bar fan work a lot and I don't work in 1994.
to the Jewish press, the "Loser"
ad ran last winter in an alter- or incredibly successful with the suburbs, so I don't get a
"The friends route wasn't
native newspaper in San Fran- blind dates, you've probably chance to meet Jewish people." working, and I decided to ad-
thought about what your other
cisco.
During the first four weeks vertise for what I wanted," he
"I thought this ad was so hi- options are when it comes to that his ad ran, Steve received says. "I wanted to stick with the
larious, I almost called it," says meeting people. Personal ads are 16 calls — most on the first day. Jewish community, so I figured
Jason Waldman, 29, a financial a way for you to reach out to an He says he tried to talk to every- The Jewish News was the best
analyst and former Bloomfield unknown number of folks you body, and he met with four peo- route. I was your classic, sick-of-
Hills resident who lives out West otherwise may never meet.
ple.
blind dates guy who didn't like
But in many cases, what stops
(and likes women). "I think it's
The advantage of placing or going to the bars looking for a re-
partially truthful. This guy is ex- people is the fear that there is a answering an ad, says Steve, is lationship."
aggerating, just like the other stigma attached to encountering that you know the person is sin-
Cohen figured an ad would be
ads exaggerate when people say someone through the newspa- gle; you don't have to guess.
similar to a blind date, except he
they are gorgeous. It shows the per rather than through a friend,
"I don't have a problem with would make all the rules.
relative, neighbor or co-worker. placing an ad, but some people
guy has a sense of humor."
During the two-week run of
Some say that if these people do," he says. "I'll do what's best his ad, Cohen received 10 calls.
While the above ad is an ex-
are so beautiful and interesting,
"I had responses from all differ-
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