EUGENE & MARCIA APPLEBAUM JEWISH PARENTING CENTER CONGREGATION SHAAREY ZEDEK Presents: Country, the liberal, artistical- him, but then I'd be revealing ly-oriented Bloomfield Hills pri- that it took 13 years for me to vate school I attended from fifth get the rebuttal published. to 12th grades. I studied femi- Since I was married last sum- nist theory, contemporary poet- mer, my husband Charlie has ry and transactional analysis. provided me with happiness,'se- At 14 I barged into my fa- curity and a funny recurring ther's den one day after school male character. He's also a and said, "Your lack of emotional writer and insists I use a pseu- reassurance adds to my feelings donym when I write about him. of inadequacy and -rejection." He's been renamed "Aaron." "I'm paying the tuition that's Now, every time I publish allowing you to learn this crap," anything about love or marriage, he said. "Now go and make me we get phone messages that say, a cup of coffee." "Nice piece. But does Charlie My parents realized that they know about this Aaron guy?" were really in trouble when I OK, so mining your life for was in college at the University material is tacky and exploita- of Michigan, which my father tive. But you write best about calls "The people's republic of what you know. And what else Ann Arbor." There I saw a do you do with pain? If it's phys- shrink, wrote poetry and paro- ical, a doctor makes a diagnosis dies for a humor magazine and prescribes medication that called Michigas will hopefully and announced cure you. I've ex- that my ultimate plained to those I goal was to become My goal love that, for me, the female Philip writing has al- was to Roth. ways been my When I moved way of healing become a to Manhattan in myself. With pen 1981, I began sell- female in hand, I conquer ing relationship darkness, commit Philip Roth. pieces to national important feel- magazines. After ings to memory, an essay ran in defy loss and turn Cosmopolitan about resolv- the most painful things in my ing emotional conflicts with my life into something funny or wit- mother — she called to say, "You ty or poignant. made me sound like a bimbo, Growing up in a family of doc- and I'm writing a rebuttal on a tors and science brains, I find po- daughter who lies about her etry to be my internal medicine, mother all the time." hence the book's title. When Monica, my Manhat- I remember when I sent Aunt tan friend and mentor, fell for Jean my first three published my kid brother Brian and mar- poems. She called to say, "I ried him, I wrote about the didn't know you were so inse- weird triangle for New Woman cure." magazine. Since Brian's a sur- "I'm secure with my insecuri- geon in Grand Blanc and Re- ties," I told her, not ashamed to publican like my father, he said admit such human flaws as fear, I couldn't use his name. I hurt and confusion. The Cos- changed it. • sacks aren't coming, Auntie But when they agreed to run Jean. Nobody really cares when photographs and picked out I lost my virginity, except maybe their favorites, I explained the the guy. And my mother. inanity of having pictures run "You never were good at se- without real names. They re- crets," she said on my last visit lented. to Michigan. I've also delved into my own "I know. I wrote a stanza in dubious past. When my first love the book that says, 'I have nev- slept with my roommate, I pub- er been good at secrets/ unbut- lished a prose poem about a man ton myself heedlessly.' " who took apart pieces of a "Well, stop it already," Mom woman — popped her eyes out said. of their sockets, removed her Then she bought 20 copies. arms from her torso — and Which will give her 20 formed the woman he wanted. I chances to read my dedication sent it to him with the note to her and my father, who pro- `Thanks for the inspiration." (He vided me with love, shelter, room wrote back to say my envelope to express myself honestly — was dripping blood, and he was and all my good metaphors. glad to hear I was so happy in my new city.) At the end of a six-month ro- Susan Shapiro and Lynne mance with my poetry profes- Meredith will their poetry to Cohn read sor, he included his side of the toge ther 8 P. Aug 19 at breakup in "To a Young Woman Lo nestar Coffee Co ' in ; of Ambition," a poem in his 1984 Bi rmingham. For more infor- collection. I've now set the record mation, call Lynne Meredith straight with "From a Young Cohn, (248) 354-6060, Ext. Woman of Ambition," a poem in 244. my book. I'd like to send it to POOH-JAMA PARTY SIMI SHABBAT WEST! Thursday, July 10 6:30-7:30 pm Make this summer special! 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