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SINGLES TRAVEL

hi last week's story about trips to Is-
rael, the large picture featuring sin-
gles at the Dead Sea was from an
Israel Bonds trip, not a UJA mis-
sion. We regret the error.

Historical Cycling International, Tus-
cany, Italy. Bicycling tour of Jewish
Tuscan history. For information, call
(714) 499-0342.

She works, he writes a dissertation — for years.
How not to be bothered by incomeless lovers.

! have vowed not to be corn- sometimes thinks I don't respect
what he's doing.
petitive with my boyfriend.
OK, maybe I have the slight-
I know I'm not cut out to
date someone in the same est difficulty understanding this
profession — too contentious, three-to-five year "research" pe-
one-dimensional. Given that, I riod he's just begun. I mean,
thought I had found the ideal what is he really doing every
day? Seems to me, a
match: a man whose
month of working 10-
interests relate to mine,
hour shifts like I do, and
but who is doing some-
this research phase that's
thing entirely different.
keeping him in school
Mostly, he sleeps un-
straight through my re-
til noon. Sometimes, he
productive years could be
stays up until 4 a.m.,
all wrapped up.
playing computer
Despite the fury and
games.
frustration graduate
No, he's not a dead-
school seems able to
beat. I'm dating a grad:
uate student. That's ALLISON KAPLAN evoke in me, I actually
think his academic side
SPECIAL
right, an intellectual.
is partly what I find so
TO THE
How very chic. For
attractive. I like intelli-
JEWISH NEWS
about five minutes,
gence. I like sensitive
anyway.
Take off the horn-rimmed and philosophical. I like men in
glasses and two days of stubble turtlenecks. (Naturally, I've
grown while deep in ... thought, managed to pick the only pro-
and the reality is less than fessor-to-be who is instantly
charming. When you're among choked by any material that
the crowd that rises before 7 clings above the Adam's apple.
a.m., it's just hard to have sym- But still.)
I think it's not so much about
pathy for anyone who sleeps in.
respect as it is about experience.
Ever. For any reason.
So we're having a few con- He sits in a windowless room an-
alyzing and researching, while
flicts.
I keep trying to tell myself our I'm out there actually produc-
paths are just different, not bet- ing. And there are a few reali-
ter or worse. Except mostly, I ties here that my boyfriend just
think what I do is better. In the can't deny. Like, income. I'm not
back of my head I know that naming names, but one of us
some distant day, he'll have earns one, and one of us doesn't.
He doesn't know from 401Ks
tenure and command big bucks
for speaking engagements and or taxes — heck, he's still a de-
take summers off for European pendent. He has out-of-state li-
travel. People will call him doc- cense plates because student
tor or professor or something im- status allows him to register his
pressive, and I'll be an old, car under his parents' policy. He
burnt-out employee, tired of cu- still thinks health insurance
bicles, two-weeks-a-year vaca- miraculously begins and ends
tion and not being able to take with that little card in his wal-
my work outside on warm, let, and he has no knowledge of
health plans, physicians net-
spring days.
Then I return to my senses works or medical bills.
He also has cheap student air-
and think, by the time he fin-
ishes writing this alleged dis- plane tickets from American Ex-
sertation, I'll have saved as press and summer vacations. I
much as he owes, have a corner hate grad school.
But I don't have homework.
office and at least five weeks of
annual vacation time. That is, That's big. And paychecks —
they are definitely worth men-
assuming I haven't retired.
It's all very funny, but the dif- tioning twice.
I guess the old cliche is true
ferences do, occasionally, esca-
late beyond just mere — the grass is greener on the
differences. In a nutshell, he other side. I would just feel
abundantly better if it seemed
like he wanted my patch of
a
columnist
for
Allison Kaplan is
grass, even just a little. Six a.m.
the Chicago Jewish Star whose
is not really so early.
mother only lets her date
Oh, who am I kidding? ❑
Jewish guys.

JUNE 24-JULY 1

FRIDAY, JUNE 13

JUNE 26-JULY 13

Shabbat dinner and services, Temple
Israel and Jewish Professional Sin-
gles. 6:15 p.m. dinner, 8 p.m. services.
Cost: $12. Reservations required. For
information, call (248) 988-1300.

Israel Encounter's National Young
Professionals Tour, by Young Jewish
Leadership Concepts. Cost: $3,449
base price. For information, call (800)
223-YJLC.

WEDNESDAY, JUNE 18

JUNE 27-29

Dinner at Zias with Jewish Profes-
sional Singles. Cost: $15. Reserva-
tions required. For information, call
(248) 988-1300.

J&J Ranch in Muskegon, with the
Michigan Jewish Singles Network
For information, call Sue Ellen at
(248) 851-1100.

FRIDAY, JUNE 20

JUNE 30-JULY 7

Young Adult Shabbat Service at Adat
Shalom Synagogue, 29901 Middle-
belt Road. 7:30 p.m. Call (248) 851-
5100.

National Jewish Singles Cruise to
Alaska. Sponsored by the Jewish
Community Center of Pittsburgh.
For information, call Bill Cartiff,
(412) 521-8011, Ext. 371.

SUNDAY, JUNE 22

Intermarriage and Inter-Relation-
ships, at the Sunday summer singles
six star brunch with Jewish Profes-
sional Singles. Cost: $8. At the Agency
for Jewish Education, 21550 W. 12
Mile Road. For information, call (248)
988-1300.

Basketball with Hillel of Metro De-
troit. 2 p.m. Meet at Hoopsville in
Farmington Hills. For information,
call Jeff Klein, (248) 788-3346.

Temple Israel's Singles Extension
Group dinner dance, for ages
50+. 6:30 p.m. At Temple Israel's
Herman Hall, 5725 Walnut Lake
Road in West Bloomfield. Cost: $15
members, $18 non-members.
R.S.V.P. by June 16 to Shirley Co-
hen, (248) 851-8707, or Shirley Wine,
(248) 682-3181.

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JULY 4-6

Rafting the Lehigh River and resort
weekend with Young Jewish Lead-
ership Concepts. At the Allentown Ra-
mada Inn. For information, call (800)
223-YJLC.

JULY 6-16

Israel Bonds New Leadership Dele-
gation to Israel. Cost: $2,799 per per-
son, double occupancy. Pre-trip to
Turkey, an additional $949 per per-
sun, double occupancy. For informa-
tion, call (800) 229-9650, Ext. 501,
502.

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United Jewish Appeal summer sin-
gles mission to Israel. Cost: $1,866
plus a $500 minimum pledge to the
1998 Allied Jewish Campaign. For in-
formation, call Marc Berke, (248) 642-
4260, Ext. 273.

