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"The only problem is, I can still hear him snoring sometimes, down the hall. It would be better if he'd move into the back yard." Maria and Bob are not the only married folks to have this kind of nightly arrangement — a king-size number do. When the San Diego Union- Tribune recently asked to hear from couples who don't sleep to- gether, the editors were deluged with phone calls, letters and e- mail, along with one cassette recording of what was either a motorboat or a man snoring. As you might have guessed, snoring is the main reason for separate accommodations, and 90 percent of the time it is the man who is guilty. (Take heed though, ladies, your significant others say you are not totally in- nocent.) Thrashing and kicking and temperature incompatibility (she likes it hot, he likes it cold) tie for the next-most-frequent reason. Different schedules (he works nights, she works days) also rat- ed pretty high, as did different interests (he likes to watch late- night TV, she likes to read in qui- et). A handful of people said they like to sleep with their dogs or cats but their spouses don't. And one woman said she could toler- ate her husband's snoring and flailing, but had a problem with his talking and walking in his sleep. She moved out of the mas- ter bedroom the night he stood up in bed and screamed bloody murder (while still asleep). One woman, Berna Danziger, told of how she found compro- mise. "I'm always cold, and he's al- ways warm. I bought a set of flannel sheets, and he couldn't stand them. I solved the problem by cutting them in half and at- taching them to a regular sheet, with a seam down the middle. Now he enjoys the cool, cotton side while I am snug and warm on the flannel." Still, all but a few couples said that having separate bedrooms improved their relationships. "What's so important about being together when you're asleep?" asked Rachel, 51. 'What really hurts a relationship is be- ing tired all the time." About 20 percent said that sleeping separately throws a damper on their sex lives. But many more said their sex lives are better than they used to be. "There is an interesting line in the film The Sheltering Sky," wrote Marlene. "Debra Winger explains separate accommoda- tions for herself and her husband like this: 'Don't confuse sleep with sex."' "There is no love lost in our arrangement," agreed Russ, 42, another separate sleeper. 'When my wife and I want to ren- dezvous, we rendezvous. Its like a date. And it sure feels better to get a good night's sleep." ❑ Copley News Service Therapies Target Cause Of Pain JACK WILLIAMS SPECIAL TO THE JEWISH NEWS People•Voice Connector l equittg'Oe' lewuh "'eh To coo To place a free ad, call 1.800.881.8290 You must be 18 or older. 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