Amer ptica mqkmw.,wmfmpx,-mcmssmnmwAmqmwo.sosmtztkxtwzMwx,n......q V Feminism At 25: The Pendulum Swings JANE CLIFFORD SPECIAL TO THE JEWISH NEWS 7071 Orchard Lake Road Sr S Building, Suite 215 West Bloomfield, MI 48322 just North of 14 Mile • Wheelchair accessible • Ample parking (810) 851-0610 I CALLED MOM FOR LUNCH ON TUESDAY, BUT SHE WAS GOING TO A BOOK REVIEW IN THE LIBRARY. - I DROPPED BY ON THURSDAY, BUT SHE COULDN'T COME BECAUSE SHE WAS BUSY IN THE ACTIVITIES ROOM WORKING ON HER NEW EXERCISE PLAN. I INVITED MYSELF TO LUNCH WITH HER ON FRIDAY, AND THE FOOD WAS TERRIFIC. I TOLD MOM TO CALL MY BROTHER AND LET HIM KNOW HOW SHE LIKES HER NEW HOME AT THE HEATHERWOOD. I HOPE SHE CAN FIND TIME TO CALL. the IM ATHERWOOD RETIREMENT COMMUNITY Retirement _Living for the fictive 5 Senior For information call Kathy Ostrowski (810) 350-1777 22800 Civic CENTER DRIVE SOUTHFIELD, MICHIGAN SVA-41 n1N- en: ift ► nbserip on to * WS • ( 0 ink-oink. Ah, the call of the wild. The new wild man who's sick of feminism and — snort, snort — is happy to say so. No, it's not Rush Limbaugh, raging against his arch-enemies, the "Feminazis." This wild man is the "new post-sensitive male," according to a recent issue of Newsweek magazine, or the "al- pha male," as Esquire magazine labeled him. So, who is he? He wants to be the leader of the pack, which is where "alpha" comes from - a term used by an- imal behaviorists to describe the dominant mem- ber of a pack of dogs or wolves or ... well, you get the picture. He wants to be in charge. The new "post-sensitive man" sounds a lot like the old insensi- tive man - best seen, some say, by viewing this fall's TV series "Men Behaving Badly," whose characters make other men laugh and most women cringe. But, what happens in TV land is generally just a reflection of what happens out here, so we took a look around for this new man who apparently is a combi- nation of "Beavis and Butt-head," John Wayne and cave man. He may smoke cigars, wear a three-piece suit and drink mar- tinis, or wear work boots and never miss a day at the gym, but the most common trait is that he wants to be top dog in his rela- tionships with women. That battle cry may be best summarized in The Code, a brand-new paperback, written by Nate Penn and Lawrence LaRose, in response to The Rules. The latter is a guide for women who want to "catch" their man. The former is, basically, how not to get caught. Or, as The Code's subtitle reads: "Time-test- ed Secrets for Getting What You Want from Women - Without Marrying Them!" We can't be much more spe- cific about its contents in a fam- ily newspaper. Let's just say that Penn and LaRose have said out loud what lots of guys may be thinking - guys who don't see 25 years of feminism as progress. Some observers, it seems, have long thought that it was Jane Clifford writes for Copley News Service. only a matter of time before progress gave way to pent-up frustration. "This is definitely happening," says Warren Farrell, San Diego- based author of the best-selling books Why Men Are the Way They Are and The Myth of Male Power. He also knows that he's a poster child for the "New Age sensitive man," and laughs at the notion that he might be an en- dangered species. "If I were to summarize 25 years of femi- nism, it would be to say that we've entered the era of the multi-optioned woman and the no-option man." Farrell ex- plains: "Woman can work full time, part time or not at all." He adds, Most men feel their three options are: They can work full time, work full time or work full time." And men are not happy about that, so the one place where they can change, without being de- moted or, worse, fired, for polit- ically incorrect behavior is in their relationships. In other words, Farrell says, men are likely to be aggressive in trying to make change and then, one hopes, will mellow out to ... just assertive. But even this "New Age sensitive man" is not against such change. "Ws definitely good, but it's go- ing to be messier before ifs clean- er because men are poor expressers of their feelings. But exactly for that reason, they need to learn how to do it. Women were often aggressive before they were assertive and the same can be expected with this." . Farrell says men are "upset and angry and hurt." They work and work and work and, when they get home, they get criticized. They are ragged-on for working too hard and for not working hard enough at home. Which makes them feel unloved. What do men want? In a word, says Farrell: a-p-p-r-e-c-i-a-t-i-o-n. ❑ Publicity Deadlines The normal deadline for local news and publicity items is noon Thursday, eight days prior to issue date. The deadline for out-of-town obituaries is 10 a.m. Tuesday, three days prior_ to issue date.