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Name Telephone Address City L State Zip J The ewts1) News • 27676 Franklin Road • Southfield, MI q803q For further in formation call Barb or Karin at (810) 354-6060, ext. 269 or 270. Into The Mystifying One-half a couple's musings on the graduation from dating to couplehood. here are several indica- Girls make clear from the start tions that a relationship is who their friends are, and given shifting from dating into, no real options and less inclina- tion to protest, guys adjust. indeed, a "relationship." I always explain it to men like In college coupling, of course, it's possible to date someone for this: It's not that I don't like years without ever actually go- your friends; I just don't like you ing on a date or integrating with your friends. It is often a friends. My brother, a college ju- man's closest pals who are nior, is forever meeting up with most resistant to the coupling his so-called girlfriend after effect. When in the presence of hanging out with his friends. For a really close buddy — particu- the sake of easing into reality, I larly a college buddy from a keep warning him to practice wilder, singler time — guys are taking her out in public now; sometimes known to revert to once college is over, people as- catcalls and belching. They also sume you're part of a package become pathetically unable to handle an adult deal when they see you conversation that with the same date might, let's suppose, more than once. include everyone at In the real world, the table. however, public func- On a happier note tions, for one, shift from (at least from my per- a potentially monu- spective), dating me mental issue into a ca- has propelled my sual assumption. boyfriend into an un- My boyfriend made expected reunion this realization when he with a high school ALLISO N KAPLAN received a wedding in- friend who had grown SPECIA L TO THE vitation that identified distant. His friend is JEWIS H NEWS me by name, rather nice enough, but the than the inferior "and main draw is his ter- date." I, of course, was thrilled with rific girlfriend. We hit it off so the vote of approval and the re- fast that, well, the guys were left assurance that his friends think in an insecure whirl, begging us I'm OK. He was curious about to divulge what we could possi- the etiquette — in the event of bly be chatting about while our untimely break up before the walking a purposeful 15 feet occasion, would he be allowed to ahead. Yet because our connection is take another date? Would I still through the guys, we're hesitant be invited? The idea that he'd even want to make the break and truly be- to take another date so soon af- come friends outside of the cou- ter our unfortunate, hypotheti- ple arrangement. It's a major cal separation was enough to step. Last time the four of us got to- start just the smallest of dis- putes. After only 45 minutes of gether, we ended up back at my verbal jousting, we remembered apartment — men huddled over this had- been a purely hypo- a map or computer or some such thetical question. In any case, I thing in one room, women com- told him the invitation clearly fortably seated on couches in an- set up a me-or-no-one situation. other. There is something oddly enjoyable about spending hours Simple as that. What's even more weird than gossiping with a friend, while being a couple itself is this whole knowing the main subjects of the coupling effect which allows conversation are just a room mere acquaintances to become away, available for hugging at a close friends while involved in moment's notice. When I told my mom about parallel relationships. I find myself now frequently the evening and how we en- going out with a male friend I gaged in this fascinating ritual used to see only sporadically. It's of getting together as couples likely not a coincidence we and dividing by gender, she was upped the social pace around the in hysterics. Apparently I (with same time he started grad school my counterpart) have gone from at the university my boyfriend being a new couple straight to attends and fell for a really cool being my parents. So, Fm thinking about hitting woman who happens to work in disco night at the dance club my field. Important to note that the this week, with a big group of coupling dynamic rarely corre- fun women. Boyfriends not in- lates with degree of friendship vited. ❑ — especially on the guy's side.