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women's tennis and recruited to Albion College's tennis
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Into The Mystifying
One-half a couple's musings on the graduation
from dating to couplehood.
here are several indica- Girls make clear from the start
tions that a relationship is who their friends are, and given
shifting from dating into, no real options and less inclina-
tion to protest, guys adjust.
indeed, a "relationship."
I always explain it to men like
In college coupling, of course,
it's possible to date someone for this: It's not that I don't like
years without ever actually go- your friends; I just don't like you
ing on a date or integrating with your friends. It is often a
friends. My brother, a college ju- man's closest pals who are
nior, is forever meeting up with most resistant to the coupling
his so-called girlfriend after effect. When in the presence of
hanging out with his friends. For a really close buddy — particu-
the sake of easing into reality, I larly a college buddy from a
keep warning him to practice wilder, singler time — guys are
taking her out in public now; sometimes known to revert to
once college is over, people as- catcalls and belching. They also
sume you're part of a package become pathetically unable
to handle an adult
deal when they see you
conversation that
with the same date
might, let's suppose,
more than once.
include everyone at
In the real world,
the table.
however, public func-
On a happier note
tions, for one, shift from
(at least from my per-
a potentially monu-
spective), dating me
mental issue into a ca-
has propelled my
sual assumption.
boyfriend into an un-
My boyfriend made
expected reunion
this realization when he
with a high school
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received a wedding in-
friend who had grown
SPECIA L TO THE
vitation that identified
distant. His friend is
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me by name, rather
nice enough, but the
than the inferior "and
main draw is his ter-
date."
I, of course, was thrilled with rific girlfriend. We hit it off so
the vote of approval and the re- fast that, well, the guys were left
assurance that his friends think in an insecure whirl, begging us
I'm OK. He was curious about to divulge what we could possi-
the etiquette — in the event of bly be chatting about while
our untimely break up before the walking a purposeful 15 feet
occasion, would he be allowed to ahead.
Yet because our connection is
take another date? Would I still
through the guys, we're hesitant
be invited?
The idea that he'd even want to make the break and truly be-
to take another date so soon af- come friends outside of the cou-
ter our unfortunate, hypotheti- ple arrangement. It's a major
cal separation was enough to step.
Last time the four of us got to-
start just the smallest of dis-
putes. After only 45 minutes of gether, we ended up back at my
verbal jousting, we remembered apartment — men huddled over
this had- been a purely hypo- a map or computer or some such
thetical question. In any case, I thing in one room, women com-
told him the invitation clearly fortably seated on couches in an-
set up a me-or-no-one situation. other. There is something oddly
enjoyable about spending hours
Simple as that.
What's even more weird than gossiping with a friend, while
being a couple itself is this whole knowing the main subjects of the
coupling effect which allows conversation are just a room
mere acquaintances to become away, available for hugging at a
close friends while involved in moment's notice.
When I told my mom about
parallel relationships.
I find myself now frequently the evening and how we en-
going out with a male friend I gaged in this fascinating ritual
used to see only sporadically. It's of getting together as couples
likely not a coincidence we and dividing by gender, she was
upped the social pace around the in hysterics. Apparently I (with
same time he started grad school my counterpart) have gone from
at the university my boyfriend being a new couple straight to
attends and fell for a really cool being my parents.
So, Fm thinking about hitting
woman who happens to work in
disco night at the dance club
my field.
Important to note that the this week, with a big group of
coupling dynamic rarely corre- fun women. Boyfriends not in-
lates with degree of friendship vited. ❑
— especially on the guy's side.