Elaine Kahn and baby Joseph, who was born with the assistance of lay midwives. Dessert: Rice pudding, baked apples and sugar-free, wheat-free donuts. But is there any consistency? Trying to get a recipe out of Mrs. Miller is like asking her to discuss the merits of pota- to chips, a chocolate bar and a soda pop. It's bewildering. "I can make anything," she confess- es. "I just don't measure it. If it's an ex- act cooking, I don't do it." At last, though, she offers a family fa- vorite featuring quinoa, a round grain that could be compared in some circles to a kind of pasta., sort of. "Here's how you make it," she says ac her daughter finishes (and with utter rel- ish) that sandwich with the tofu spread. "Saute in olive oil some vegetables like pect of food from the way it is prepared carrots and onions and red pepper — but (vegetables are better sliced at an angle) not green pepper (too acidic) — that you to how it is eaten (don't have 6 pounds of fruit one day and none the next). have cut into bits. It takes into account where one lives "Then make the quinoa. What you need to keep in mind is proportions, not and the seasons and works to balance the measurements. The proportions here five tastes of sweet, sour, bitter, pungent should be 2-1, water to quinoa. Add about and salty. Despite popular belief to the contrary, 1 teaspoon olive oil. When it's boiling, re- duce and cook for 20 minutes. Then mix * 'it is not a vegetarian diet. Mrs. Miller says that in addition to be- with the vegetables. "Now, if you want to make it really ing healthy, macrobiotics has helped her good, add some butter and whipping lose weight — "and I never feel hungry." 'With my first pregnancy I was eating cream." The family's diet is basically, though everything and I gained 58 pounds," she says. "With my last child (when she was not completely, macrobiotic. Such an approach considers every as- eating macrobiotic), I gained only 19." In addition to carefully watching what her family eats, Mrs. Miller lets them drink only purified water. They watch TV, but not much ("Barney" gets thumbs up). While the family makes use of tradi- tional medicines, they also employ home- opathic remedies. A kitchen cabinet reveals a host of Chinese herbs, teas and bottles with undecipherable labels. When Mrs. Miller was injured in a fall, she opt- ed for physical therapy with a teacher of Feldenkreis, which considers the entire body and the way one moves. Perhaps the mere thought of organic peas and vegetarian sushi is enough to make your children opt for a life of daily