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Enhancing quality of life for the memory impaire
Memory impairments take on many forms and affect many
lives. Daily tasks, once considered routine, become
increasingly frustrating for the memory impaired as their
world becomes unfamiliar.
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At Hamilton House of Farmington
Hills, we recreate the "familiar" for
the memory impaired, by creating a
total environment that considers
every facet of daily living. From our
state-of-the-art design to life
enrichment programs, Hamilton
House focuses on maximizing quality of life. Most
importantly, our staff has expertise in caring for and
working with people with memory impairments.
Visit Hamilton House today to learn how we can restore
dignity, challenge, friendship and joy in the life of someone
you love.
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WERE FIGHTING FOR YOUR LIFE
Instead Of Whining,
Be Accountable
M
ove over, victims. Step
aside, whiners.
Make room for per-
sonal responsibility, a
movement — or at least a trick-
le — in which the mantra for the
new ages is bound to sound some-
thing like this: Deal with it.
"No one is coming to save me;
no one is coming to make life
right for me; no one is coming to
solve my problems," writes Bev-
erly Hills psychologist Nathaniel
Branden in his new book, Tale-
in., Responsibility.
b He adds: "If I don't do some-
thing, nothing is going to get bet-
ter."
Mr. Branden, the best-selling
author of the 1969 classic The
Psychology of Self-Esteem is now
pushing self-responsibility.
He believes it's an idea whose
time has come.
"More and more people are
challenging the whole idea that
nobody is responsible for any-
thing," says Mr. Branden.
Politicians, men's groups and
a new genre of behavior books
seem to agree.
You say you just couldn't help
yourself? Everything would be
OK if you had better parents?
The world owes you a living?
"Do you really believe that only
those people graced with great
genetics, perfect parentage and
ideal social conditions can and
will behave with character,
courage and conscience?" writes
radio psychologist Laura Sch-
lessinger in her new, and already
best-selling book, How Could You
Do That?!
She continues: "Do you really
believe that laziness, gutlessness
and selfishness are products only
of some form of psychoneurosis?
Nonsense."
Mr. Branden traces the fall
from responsibility to the post-
World War II era.
"The idea began that we were
so big and powerful that we could
do anything," he says. "We were
omnipotent ... in a risk-free uni-
verse of an endless stream of
goods and services."
Self-responsibility, he adds,
"fell like a stone from our cul-
ture."
Enter the age of entitlement.
Dr. Branden quotes from a
Time magazine article to sum up
the American psyche: "If I want
it, I need it. If I need it, I have a
right to it. If I have a right to it,
someone owes it to me. Or else
I'll sue."
Janet Bernardi believes that
people don't practice responsi-
bility because they haven't been
taught it.
"It's a value that's been lost.
It's like hunting. We don't know
how to hunt because we haven't
been taught how to hunt," says
Ms. Bernardi, a pharmaceutical
researcher who co-wrote a book
on the spirituality of Generation
X'ers (A Generation Alone).
Mr. Branden blames lawyers
who've turned the tort system
into a get-rich-quick scheme,
politicians who believe it's gov-
ernment's job to take care of
everyone and psychologists who
hold that people can't really help
the way they are.
About a year ago, Mr. Bran-
den and his wife, Devers, were
hurrying to a movie in Los An-
geles when she slipped and fell,
cutting her leg badly enough that
the wound required stitches.
Then they went to nearby San-
ta Barbara, Calif., and recount-
ed the trauma at a dinner party.
A lawyer told them they
should sue.
His wife asked why.
It happened on the theater's
property; they're responsible, the
lawyer said.
She asked whether she wasn't
responsible for walking more
carefully.
The lawyer was exasperated,
telling her: "What's the matter
with you? I'm telling you that you
can get money."
"We can't afford this stuff any
longer ... We can't afford to con-