Jewish Community Center Camps
have the perfect summer
experience for your child.

outing is inviting trouble. Like-
wise, it is unrealistic to expect a
2-year-old to sit quietly through
a synagogue service. Anticipat-
ing such situations and planning
ahead often can eliminate a need
to discipline.
When should children be pun-
ished? Parents must evaluate
what misbehavior goes over their
limits and requires punishment.
Being selective is important, for
punishing everything becomes
counterproductive. The goal of
punishment should always be to
get the behavior to stop, without
damaging the child's self-esteem.
The Talmud says of parents and
children, "Let the left hand repel
while the right hand draws near."
Rabbi Donin commented that
"the child should not be permit-
ted to interpret his punishment
as a rejection of himself, only a
dissatisfaction with the act com-
mitted."
What about physical punish-
ment?
Today, experts in child devel-
opment agree that corporal pun-
ishment has only negative effects.
Such punishment confuses a child,
who can't understand why adults
he loves and trusts are attacking
him. It teaches the child to fear in-
. stead of to respect authority.
The same can be said for oth-
er controlling methods of disci-
pline, such as yelling, scolding
and lecturing. Many parents re-
sort to these methods out of anger
and frustration. If possible, give
yourself time and find a way to
calm down before disciplining
your child. This also will help you
treat him fairly and allow your
child to deal effectively with his
own anger. Your goal is to teach
your child how to talk about her
feelings without hurting or at-
tacking others.
You are only human, however,
so if you do get angry, don't let
it linger.
Model the ability to apologize
after conflict or misunderstand-
ing by acknowledging that you
wish you had behaved different-
ly. Even if the child isn't ready to
respond yet, he'll still hear the
message that you love him.
It is never too late to use posi-
tive discipline with children. Sit-
uations that seem hopeless are
reversible. What may be required
is re-evaluating and modifying
our disciplinary methods.
Positive discipline is about ed-
ucating and guiding our children,
and about reinforcing limits and
family values. Elijah Ben
Solomon Zalman, the Gaon of
Vilna, put it this way in a letter
to his family two centuries ago:
. "When you lead your sons and
daughters in the good way, use
discipline that wins the heart's
ass ent."LJ

Session I: June 26 — July 20
Session II: July 24 — August 17

• PRE-SCHOOL — 5TH GRADE

Campers grouped by age enjoy sports, nature

hikes, canoeing, swimming and much more.

• CAMPER'S CHOICE

By choosing one morning and one afternoon
activity, campers are able to custom design their
own summer of fun

• SAFARI & TEEN CARAVAN

Visit places of interest in the metro area and
experience a different adventure each day.

• CAMP OF THE ARTS

The camp for the young aspiring actor.

• SUMMER TRAVEL ADVENTURE
Visit exciting cities & see world - class theatre!

• PRO SPORTS

Each week professional athletes teach the
fundamentals of football, basketball, soccer,
baseball, karate, or rollerblade hockey.

CALL TODAY, SPACE IS LIMITED!

MAPLE/DRAKE (WEST BLOOMFIELD) 661-7605 OR JIMMY PRENTIS MORRIS BUILDING (OAK PARK) 967-4030

SuperCamp

Gain powerful academic and life skills over 10 fun days through our
Quantum Learning methods: Memory, Power-Reading, Creative
Thinking, Test-Taking, Writing, and Communication. Pre-teen, teen
and college-age residential programs held at Michigan's Spring Arbor
College, and other campuses including Stanford & Yale Universities.

• 4-to-1 student to staff ratio
• 3 out of 4 graduates increase
their grades

• Students improve peer, teacher,
and family relations
• Over 16,000 graduates

46 A new breed of summer
camp has sprung up around
the nation, promising to turn
mediocre students into
scholastic achievers ... 99

— Wall Street Journal

• All ability levels

Call 1-800-28-LEARN for details and a free video!

Ages 81/2 - 17 Co-Ed

Kosher Kitchen

Swimming & Canoeing

Sports & Arts
Music & Drama
Israeli Song & Dance

Hebrew & Games

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