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relatives make a comparative
statement such as, "Jeremy is the
fat one and Jack is the skinny
twin," they should correct the rel-
ative.
"And the twin may not be fat
except when compared with the
twin," Dr. Segal said. "Parents
should say something like, 'Yes,
they are different That is the way
we like them."
"People take their cues from
parents," she said.
Ellyce and Stephen Field
thought they had all of the bases
covered on this issue. They had
treated their identical sons An-
drew and Garrett as individuals
since they were born. Separate
rooms, separate clothing, you
name it.
Ms. Field, a writer who has
produced articles for Twins mag-
azine, had interviewed psycholo-
gists who told her this was the
best thing she could do for her
children.
"There is enough inherent
competition between siblings,
brothers and twins. I wanted to
make sure that each one felt
special," she said.

Although they
shared a womb,
twins should be seen
as having separate
personalities.

Still, it happened. The boys
were placed in one class on the
first day of school where children
compared the two.
"Garrett came home crying,"
she said. "He told me, 'Everyone
said there were two Andrews in
class.' "
The school separated the two.
Dr. Segal does not advocate
Nj mandatory separation in school
but instead favors the children
separating when they are ready.
Each case should be treated in-
dependently as some twins cher-
ish twinship while others crave
independent lives.
Fraternal twins Marla and
Stacy Lieberman, for example,
went to college in different states.
On purpose.
"They didn't even apply to the
same colleges," said Rochelle
Lieberman, their mother.
For others, however, twinship
is something relished. The Char-
nas twins compete on the same
swim team, share the same
friends, enjoy the same classes
and are each others best friend.
They will attend Michigan State
University after they graduate
from North Farmington High
School next June. At MSU, they

will continue to share a room.
"I tell people that we're womb
mates and now we'll be room-
mates," said Jason Charnas.
In some ways, twins can actu-
ally be easier to have than sin-
gletons, parents said. For one,
twins always have a built-in play-
mate as soon as they are able to
play on their own.
"At first, they would roll cans
to the other on the kitchen floor,"
Ms. Kepes said of Aubrey and
Zak. "Now they escape to their
rooms and talk about what hap-
pened in school with each other."
And not all competition is bad.
Andrew and Garrett Field's
older brother, Jordan, tried mu-
sic but later tired of it in favor of
other pursuits. The twins chal-
lenged each other to learn differ-
ent instruments, goading each
other to be better.
"They egg each other on in
good ways," said Ms. Field.
As the twins age, normal
growth experiences continue to
be a challenge, parents said.
B'nai mitzvah were mixed
blessings for the parents. On one
hand, none of them had to share
the occasion with another fami-
ly. They were able to have one
party and get it all over with at
once.
But in doing so, they had to
compromise on nearly every as-
pect. Ms. Field said her boys had
to decide who would do the first
half of the Haftorah. Then they
had to agree on one theme.
"It was easier with Jordan (her
older son). With him, there was
only one to please," she said.
Another hair-raising experi-
ence for parents of teen-age twins
is the dreaded driver's education.
Ms. Charnas went through the
experience with her singleton, Er-
ica, first.
"With one, you can let them
drive to wherever you are going
and then drive back yourself to
give yourself a break," she said.
"With two, one drives there and
one drives back. You get no
break."
According to Dr. Segal, the
most important thing a parent of
twins can remember is that each
set is different from any other set.
And within the twinship, each
child is different from the other.
According to parents of twins,
the most important thing to re-
member is that time passes
quickly.
Rochelle Lieberman knows
this all too well. When her daugh-
ters headed off to their first day
of school, her mother warned her
that they would grow quickly.
"And you know what? She was
right," she said. "One minute they
are going to Windergarteri and the
next they're in college." I11

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