and asked, "Was I really at the
"You certainly were," he told
her. "I changed your diapers my-
The girl was clearly moved.
"My father said I was there,
but I didn't know if he was just
telling me that," she said. "My
mother and I had so little time to-
gether. It means a lot to me that
I was really at the funeral."
e've had golf balls and
tennis balls, fortunate-
ly no one with bowling
balls," Mr. Bodzin says.
The most frequent request:
Bury the deceased with a
ritual object (like his siddur) or
family photographs and chil-
dren's and grandchildren's draw-
The artwork may never bene-
fit the corpse, but Mr. Bodzin, the
author of Why Is Everybody
Crying, a guidebook on death and
mourning for children, believes
it can help the living.
"When my mother died, I had
my daughter make a drawing,"
he said. "It was a way for her to
One woman at Hebrew
Memorial wanted to be buried on
her husband's left, so they could
"hold hands" in death exactly as
they had in life.
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One caller asked,
"Do you know
what they'll be
serving at the
A motorcycle aficionado ask-
ed for his fellow bikers to be
part of the funeral. "The whole
group led the procession,"
Mr. Bodzin recalls. "Their be-
havior and manners were im-
Finally, there are those prob-
lems that arise even before the
requests about where to be buried
or what to place in the casket.
Take the complicated question of
Among the information in-
cluded on a death certificate is
the occupation of the deceased,
so it's customary for funeral di-
rectors to ask.
Mr. Bodzin did so with one
family only to receive stares and
"Well, did he have an occupa-
tion?" Mr. Bodzin asked.
Finally, one of the family mem-
bers hesitantly announced, "He
was a bookie."
Mr. Bodzin thought a moment.
Then he picked up a pen. On the
empty line beside the word
"Occupation" on the death cer-
tificate he wrote: "Sales and per-
sonal investments." II]
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