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what Judaism is all about."
Still, the Orthodox are not ex-
empt from the issue of touching.
Many observant men and wom-
en, especially those who work
with the public, do their share of
handshaking so as not to offend
clients.
"Listen, touch is a very impor-
tant part of the development pro-
cess," said Alan Goodman,
executive director of the Jewish
Family Service. "But you can't
help kids or adults grow unless
they understand good and bad
touch. Is it appropriate to hug a
person who is sobbing? That can
affect the relationship between a
therapist and a client. However,
that can also be misconstrued,
and it has been."
Mr. Goodman said that be-
cause people are more aware of
their rights and when they are be-
ing violated, the issue of touching
has taken on a greater impor-
tance than a decade ago.
"It's positive, because people
might have put up with abuses
before, and now they know they
don't have to. But it's also creat-
ed problems for all sorts of com-
munity workers, not just leaders."
For the social workers under
Mr. Goodman's supervision, a
code of ethics and a high level of
moral behavior is demanded.
"The professional is vulnerable
even if she has done nothing," he
said. The client can always ask,
'What did it mean when my ther-
apist touched my arm?' "
Mr. Goodman stressed that
therapists have to be ultra-care-
ful not to give out any mixed mes-
sages. He also urges social
workers to record what they do,
to videotape treatment with per-
mission.
"It comes down to, in some
cases, limit-setting," he said.
"How do you set the limits of prac-
tice?"
Or as Rabbi Gross-Schaefer put
it, "This is a small part of a very
large issue. What are rabbis any-
more? We're unclear if our func-
tion is spiritual teacher or CEO.
This issue of our conduct is part
of that crisis in identity." ❑
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Offer Guidelines Here
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forward with B'nai B'rith Girl
members.
Can the teens still get a hug in
BBYO?
"You wait to get a signal or a
key from a kid," said Mr. Weiner.
"We're prepared to be to the kids
what they need from us. But to
outwardly say no to a kid who
needs a hug is as wrong as foist-
ing yourself on a person."
Jacob Gregg is executive di-
rector of the National Conference
of Synagogue Youth, an
Orthodox-sponsored organization
which attracts largely non-
Orthodox and unaffiliated youths.
NCSYers cannot touch mem-
bers of the opposite sex in any
way. It's OK for male advisers to
give a "high-five" to a male youth
and for a female adviser to offer
a pat on the back to a girl. But
that's all.
"What you find is that the kids
themselves won't go for any touch-
ing beyond a high-five or a pat on
the back,"
Mr. Gregg said.
For Orthodox Jews, the idea
of touching a non-related mem-
ber of the opposite sex is against
Halachah, Jewish law.
"A woman may not shake a
man's hand, even if she is wear-
ing gloves," according to the
Talmud. "This is a safeguard
against sexual transgression."
Then there is the issue of
yichud, the term applied to situ-
ations when a man and a woman
find themselves alone without
their spouses around. This, too, is
prohibited, which is why many
Orthodox men and women, while
having one-on-one meetings, will
keep the door to an office partly
open.
"The halachic guidelines are
clear," said Rabbi Alon Tolwin of
Aish RaTorah and Young Israel -
of West Bloomfield. "No physical
contact is allowed between the
sexes if they aren't married. We
can't handle it."
The issue of hugging is a thin-
ly veiled bandage to real feelings,
said Rabbi Tolwin. "People should
be able to talk to one another and
express themselves. Sanctity is
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ocal leaders this week Committee believes the state
hailed a U.S. Supreme should not support a religion,
Court decision that held a even if it is ours, as it was in this
separate school district for case."
In the majority opinion writ-
Satmar Chasidim is unconstitu-
tional, and said the decision could ten by Justice David H. Souter,
impact the issue of charter the Court found that the law
allowing the creation of the dis-
schools in Michigan.
"We feel the Supreme Court trict was "an impermissible
was right in its decision;" said favoritism toward religion in
Brian J. Kott, president of the general and toward one sect in
Detroit Chapter of the American particular, a violation of the
Jewish Committee. "The Establishment Clause."
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