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Sing Around
The Seasons

Lights
A Hannukah Video

Chanukah

Chanukah Gifts No One Can Hold A Candle To.

"We see abuse in
movies and on
television.
I feel like
I can look out
for myself
a little better
now."

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to be involved. Very often, we
just haven't given them the op-
portunity."
About 14 families attended
the three-week seminar which
began Nov. . 2 and concluded
Tuesday.
In the first week, Deanne
Ginns-Gruenberg, owner of the
Self-Esteem Shop in Royal Oak,
spoke about what she sells and
what it means. JEFF associates
Sue Stettner and Julia
Greenblatt added a Jewish per-
spective. Mr. Zilli, a part-time
associate of the JCC and per-
sonal self-defense trainer of-
fered reactive and
common-sense tips if assaulted
or confronted.
Week two, Mr. Zilli followed
up on his training. Ira Wise,
Temple Emanu-El educator,
and psychologist Dan Stettner
also spoke. Families moved
from giant card to giant card
upon the floor, literally walking
through tough situations many
teens are confronted with at
school and at home.
For the final installment,
Beth Shalom Rabbi David
Nelson, Jewish Family Service
associate Sandra Jaffa and Mr.
Zilli worked with the families.

Banners spewing well-
known quotes, like "If I am not
for myself, who will be for me?
But if I am for myself alone,
what am I? And if not now,
when?" were taped to the walls.
Rabbi Nelson used the lines to
spur conversation about re-
sponsibility and how it is men-
tioned in both Torah and
Talmud.
"You must stand up for your-
self in all ways, and you have to
balance enlightened self-inter-
ests," Rabbi Nelson said. "Fulfill
mitzvot to live by them, but not
die by them."
Issues of domestic violence,
spouse and date abuse were
addressed by Ms. Jaffa. She
discussed the myths of Jews as
non-drinkers, non-abusers
and added JFS's Windows pro-
gram for domestic violence
has served more than 250 fam-
ilies.
Duplicated articles about the
topic were handed out and
teens watched a video, "Heart

on a Chain," while parents re-
grouped to discuss the infor-
mation being discussed.
The video, which included
three high-school dating vi-
gnettes, explored control and
emotional issues and offered
statistics: One in eight high-
school and one in five college
students will be involved in a
violent relationship before grad-
uation.
Students shared their own
thoughts and experiences with
each other and Ms. Jaffa fol-
lowing the viewing.
"There is a problem of people
seeing what is happening but
denying it. They don't want to
be responsible," Ms. Jaffa said.
Jennifer Maiseloff, a 13-year-
old Hillel Day School student,
said she thought the program
and its discussions were help-
ful.
"None of the situations men-
tioned have ever happened to
me. But it doesn't mean they
are not real," Jennifer said. "We
see abuse in movies and on tele-
vision. I feel like I can look out
for myself a little better now."
During the final instruction,
Jennifer paired up with her
mother Ellen to practice pro-ac-
tive self-defense methods.
Mr. Zilli taught the group
about the 13 basic tools of their
body, including hands, feet, el-
bows and head. He explained
kicking and punching range,
safe distance, grappling and
how to safely exit a situation.
While holding Matt Weiner
in a headlock, Mr. Zilli ex-
plained the quick thinking and
movement needed to get out of
the situation — turn the head
to open breathing, bite the at-
tacker and protect the head
from punches. Further options
included pulling back on the
hair and delivering a direct
blow to the groin.
Mr. Zilli instructed parents
and students to practice with
each other the various methods
of self-defense, such as getting
out of a double-hand choke.
"Once you make the decision
to defend yourself, there is no
turning back. You need to be
ready to commit physically,
mentally and spiritually. This
is not about going toe to toe; it's
about trying to escape a
dangerous situation," Mr Zilli
said.
Ellen Maiseloff, Jennifer's
mother, seemed impressed.
"This program, it's making
kids aware that they have to
protect themselves. I want my
child to know how to get out of
a bad situation — physical or
social. And I think the physical
training helps give them the
confidence to do that," Ms.
Maiseloff said. "By bringing
them (the students) together,
they see that their issues in the
coming of age are the same as
their peers." ❑