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speak Russian. They
always wanted to talk
about Russia, tell Russian
jokes. I found we didn't
have a lot to talk about."
Twenty-two-year-old
Allison Rott was born in
Detroit and grew up in La
Jolla, Calif. She was danc-
ing at a local nightclub
with friends when she met
her future husband. Mr.
Raykhinshteyn had been
invited out with the group.
They met June 14, 1991,
were engaged July 8 and
married last March.
All parents involved
were pleased with their
children's choices in life
mates. Their different cul-
tural upbringings were of
no issue.
Both had dated mostly
Jews in the past, and
thought it important to do
so. They found they shared
similar feelings about
their Judaism and about
Israel.
"They say opposites
attract, but actually I
think we have a lot in com-
mon," Mr. Raykhinshteyn
said.
Mrs. Rott-Raykhin-
shteyn isn't so sure.
"Michael sees the subtle
similarities in both of us
being raised as Jews,"
Mrs. Rott-Raykhinshteyn
said. "But he grew up in a
Communist country. I
spent my life on the
beach."
Location of upbringing
isn't the only difference
between the couple. Their
ideas of the role of hus-
band and wife differ, too.
Mr. Raykhinshteyn wat-
ched his mother do every-
thing for his father. The
situation was reversed in
Mrs. Rott-Raykhinshteyn's
home. Mr. Raykhinshteyn
grew up disciplined. His
wife's home was more lax.
Mrs. Rott-Raykhinshteyn
jokes that her husband
grew up with a strong,
physical education, while
her family went out to eat.
"I think American
women are exciting. They
also like to be treated well,
to be pampered. Life is so
hard in Russia. Women
there had different expec-
tations of life and of men,"
Mr. Raykhinshteyn said.
Michael Kluzler prefers
to spend his time with
other Russians.
In the United States for

three years, Mr. Kluzler
and his son live in Oak
Park, surrounded by other
Russians. He was divorced
many years ago while still
living in Moscow.
Mr. Kluzler is not dating
anyone. He said he finds it
difficult to meet women in
America.
"Younger men go to col:
lege and meet people. They
also know the language
better. It (English) is still
a problem for me, I don't
know the slang. It makes
me a stranger at times,"-
Mr. Kluzler said.
Mr. Kluzler is open to
dating American women,
but finds the diffences in
background and language
a barrier — especially
because he is from a large,
urban city and most
women he meets are from
the suburbs.
"For example, the
women I work with, we
talk about music and the
weather. But we haven't
read the same books or

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"I don't know
the slang.
It makes me
a stranger
at times."

— Michael Kluzler

seen the same movies. The
experience is different,"
Mr. Kluzler said. "Even if
we do see the same movie,
we experience it different-
ly because of our own his-
tories."
It is also tough for Mr.
Kluzler, and men and
women like himself, to
meet Americans of the
same intellectual and cul-
tural caliber. Often, the
most educated immigrants
land menial jobs in the
United States.
Detroit, Mr. Kluzler
said, is an attractive city
for Russians. He enjoys
the large Russian commu-
nity where he can partici-
pate in cultural events and
movies from his homeland.
Mr. Kluzler said he feels
connected to the Jewish
community of Detroit, also.
"I'm not a religious per-
son. But I still feel a link
to Judaism, especially
because I've had the oppor-
tunity to learn more about