Your wedding
A celebration of good taste
It is one of the most beautiful and meaningful
events in your life, a time of rejoicing with the
people you cherish.
We will be privileged to make your wedding
celebration a unique expression of all the joy
you want to share with family and friends.
Quality Kosher Catering blends the
treasured culinary traditions of the old world
with innovative sophistication. Our hallmark
is superb cuisine, served with elegance, style
and the distinctive touch that is your personal
signature.
You are invited to explore our excellent selection
of wedding cakes, both traditional favorites and
new concepts. Our pastry professionals will
custom-create your cake and deliver it to your
reception.
We will be pleased to cater all of your parties,
including intimate dinners in your home. Plan
with us to entertain graciously, in complete
accord with your every need and consideration.
Paul G. Kohn
Quality Kosher Catering
at Congregation Shaarey Zedek
352-7758
Wedding Planner
and
Coordinator
All Phases Of Wedding
Planning
From Engagement To
Wedding Ceremony &
Reception
Including Rehearsals &
Wedding Itineraries Also
Wedding Designing, I Wedding Managing, Invitations
Accessories & Personalized Favors
Bridal Showers & Bachelor Parties
"Be A Guest At Your Own Affair
Marcia Masserman 646.6138
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•JANUARY/FEBRUARY 1993 • STYLE
WEATHERING THE STORM
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But the pair had barely been married a
month when the tension began. Dawn, who
didn't like living in John's small condomini-
um, failed to keep the place as neat as he used
to, which annoyed him. The recession post-
poned an expected promotion for John at his
job as a sales representative, giving the cou-
ple less income than they'd expected, espe-
cially after Dawn left her job as a marketing
manager. The pair started to argue fre-
quently.
Then a family loss struck: John's mother,
ill for many years, died three months after
their wedding. John was overcome by grief;
Dawn didn't know how to respond to it. "I
couldn't relate to his pain," she says, barely
remembering her father's death when she
was four. John, meanwhile, felt that Dawn
didn't provide him with the sympathy he
needed during his bereavement.
The couple fought more over whether to
move to John's mother's house as a way to
escape their crowded quarters. Dawn didn't
want to; but John thought it made sense.
"There were definitely times I wanted to walk
out," admits Dawn, now 31. "It was so rough
that I didn't think we were going to make it."
Finally, the pair consulted a marriage ther-
apist to help them work through their prob-
lems. Two and a half years after their wedding
day, they are more tolerant of each other and
more eager to compromise. "We stopped try-
ing to always win the arguments, and settled
for trying to understand each other more and
more," says John, who describes their earli-
er conflicts as "a power thing." In addition,
the couple recently gave birth to a little girl,
Nicolette. "Putting our attention on a child
sort of makes us less selfish," reflects John.
MOT EVERY COUPLE MUST NAVI-
N gate such rocky waters during their first
year together, but the newlywed period, con-
trary to many expectations, is often a time of
disillusionment and conflict. "The first year
is often kind of a rude awakening," says So-
nia Pone, a mar r iage and divorce therapist in
Birmingham. She compares getting married
to "getting on the plane to go to Miami dur-
ing January, and finding out that you're in
Switzerland instead. You're a little surprised
and very cold at first But after you buy some
warm clothes, you find out you're okay."
Shedding illusions about one's partner is
usually the biggest trauma that occurs dur-
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